Ho into an Hosband?

Based on a True Story... (Written on a Sunday Afternoon during a Saints Game...)

I know this buppie man, Reggie , I never knew him to ever have a girlfriend. I would see him all over the city. Doing what I see many men do, going after ass. He always appeared so slimy to me so, I never really got too close to him. However, we had lots of common friends.

One of our common friends, Kim, grew up with Reggie. Kim and I are very cool buppie chicks and naturally bonded. A few years ago, I was catching up with my homie Kim. She mentions that Reggie has a jumpoff in Chicago that he would just come in town and EFF. Kim stopped associating herself with this Chicago chick. (Excommunicated like a homosexual Muslim.) Kim thought it was beyond tacky of Chicago, because Chicago knew that Reggie had a girlfriend in Boston.

OH WORD?! #Welldamn. I knew he was a slime ball.

Anyway, I chat with Kim the other day (and years later) and she says she is going to Reggie's Wedding.

I ask, "Who is he marrying?"
Kim informs me it is quite an interesting situation. "Boston. All of Reggie's boys are trying to talk him out of it. Boston is such a good girl. His boys are like "What are you doing dude?!!?" Reggie has been effing Chicago since him and Boston got together."

I ask, "Wow. How can Boston not know?"
Kim says "I have no idea. But she is not with him in DC or Chicago. So maybe since she is not close..."

I , always giving folks the benefit of the doubt , ask "Really, how do you know he is still effing Chicago?"
Kim, who lives in Chicago, says " This NASTY A$$ N!GGA He came in town last week and asked to use my couch to BEAT. Seriously, I was like please stop. When I said no, Reggie asked one of his boys can he spend a night on his couch. BOOM. Boy walks into living room, he see's Reggie and Chicago getting it in right there on the man's couch. That ho is nasty."

I shook my head. "Why does he feel the need to get married?!"
Kim, "Well apparently he thinks marriage will change him."

Change him?! This is so deep.

Can you imagine that the man you love and are going to spend your life with has never been dedicated to you? NEVER!?! Not a slip up, because sometimes a slip up occurs. But a regular intimate relationship with another woman?

Then Chicago. How dumb is she going to feel? When he stops effing her? Or if he continues to eff her during his marriage, to know she was never good enough to be serious with?

But mainly lets discuss this dude Reggie?! How completely and utterly selfish of him?! To be so unfaithful and only think of himself. How can he really think this is going to work? Something is not satisfied in him, if he feels the need to continue to eff Chicago. Why not just wait it out? Why the rush?! Sow them oats! Put a hold on commitment.

But I ask you all out there, is it possible for Reggie to really change and become faithful just because he jumped the broom?

30 Days Left in Korea

Happy New Year Bups!

So after much thought, prayer, and discussion with people I love I have decided to return to the US after my year abroad in South Korea. There are many things that brought me to this decision, aside from chronic bouts of homesickness. (The holidays were extremely tough for me over here.) However, the experience in this foreign land has been unmatched by anything else I have done and has taught me a lot about a different part of the world and more importantly about MYSELF!

Some of my reasons for returning to the states

1) The more time that I spend not working in my profession the harder it will be for me to re-enter. I have worked in my field for 3 years and have been out of college for almost 4. I am ready to get back to trying to hustle my way into publishing through photography as well as continuing to produce my own work and freelance.

2) There are some things happening in my personal life at a rapid pace that I would like to give my attention to at home. (Details in a later entry)

3) Living in South Korea is like being in college. Eventually you have to graduate. I see many people who get complacent in this environment. Kind of like that person in college who just never leaves. They just keep taking classes, starting new majors or whatever they must do to stay. And they are always partying! There are no real worries or cares here. You have to go to work, just like you have to at least go to class in college to not be a complete and utter failure. However, when you are not doing that all you do is party and travel. You forget about having real responsibilities such as paying rent and actually taking work seriously. Best Bup was just saying how she gets mad when people ask her to do something at work. Like "What I'm on vacation! Oh wait...no this is my job huh?.....damn!" Not saying all people who extend their stay in Korea are complacent because that is not the case. But I do not want to stay here because I am afraid to come back home and make my life work.

4) I still have a stream of income to sustain me until I find a job!

That being said I have done and seen things in Korea that I am truly blessed to have had the opportunity to experience. I can honestly say that I see the difference in the student's I have taught over the past year and how their English has improved and how their demeanor towards me has become so warm. I will truly miss them. In addition I will miss and always treasure the many relationships that I have formed with people I have met here. There are far too many to name in this post but they have all had impacts in my life and taught me some life lessons that I will always value.

30 days until my return to U.S. soil :-)