You’re better than that: Educated Women acting like Groupies

I have to apologize to the buppie readers, although, I have been reading and commenting, I haven’t blessed y’all with anything lately. The reason is because I really have to congratulate male and female buppies, over the last few weeks I’ve been very happy with the bunch. Anyway, there is something that I think I can speak on today.

There are a lot of people out there who don’t know their worth. No this isn’t about relationships, this is about your overall life. For example, I know too many men who act like thugs or act “hood” when they really aren’t. My mother always told me that thugs do go to college, but I truly believe that once you know better, act better. The other example is women who act like groupies when they can clearly do for themselves. To piggyback off of what The District Buppie said on Monday, you have a good paying job, but you living a lie. The fact of the matter is that some women aren’t broke and their gold digging or groupie tactics aren’t attractive and are unnecessary.

I’m out in lounges and clubs all the time and I see these girls. They go to the club looking for a guy to buy them drinks, looking to meet a guy who’s well off financially to get a free meal, some bills paid, or some vacation time. I think this behavior is pathetic. Especially because the men that you really want to give you this can easily tell when a girl is out for gold. Chasing after a man for the party life or the good life is just bad. It really gets under my skin when I know a woman with a good job, good education, and a future ahead of herself is in the club chasing after ballers, athletes and celebrities. Why?! Focus on the real, the real is that a woman has to know her worth.

In my opinion, these women are just as bad as guys who try and spend their way into relevance. If you’re making 60-70K a year and you’re in the club popping bottles every weekend on credit. Something is not right. Driving a car that you can’t afford is not the move. If you have been blessed with the ability to use your brain and common sense to make it in the world, use it wisely because not everyone is blessed as you. So the same goes for women, don’t be found in circles of people that you have nothing in common with. I’m tired of seeing women who I know have much more to offer, throwing on freakum dresses and shuffling to the local nightspots Thursday-Sunday looking for a baller.

Let me follow-up my previous point about the ballers, those ballers won’t ever give you what you want anyway. When a guy meets a woman in the club, and his relationship with her exists because of the club, he never takes her seriously. (I caveat this because sometimes you meet people in the club, but that doesn’t become the main platform for your relationship.) The baller is only hitting you up for a good time, he’s not your friend and he doesn’t really care about you. The glamour will get really real for you when he sees some eye candy he likes better. Plus, all that glitters is not gold. You may think you are living the life and you are making good connections, but these people aren’t the people you think they are. They can be shallow and more concerned about themselves at your expense. If you hang around shallow people, shallow people things will happen. For example, I know a chick who was chasing an athlete and when she got pregnant she thought she had hit the jackpot. Wrong, the dude played her major league, no pun intended. His reply, “Well, what are you going to do? You can do one thing and this doesn’t really affect anyone, or you can do another and the next person you’ll speak to is my accountant who can set you up.” He basically informed her that he was not going to be that baby’s daddy and all he reduced her to was a settlement of money and moving on.

I hope my point came across in the post. I really am not accusing anyone of anything because of course I don’t know you. But take some time and make sure that you aren’t chasing the fake when you have all the tools to succeed on your own. I know some good guys and they really do appreciate our educated buppies with good jobs who are taking care of their responsibilities. Although, I won’t say that sometimes good guys don’t mess with these fake chicks, they don’t take them seriously, trust me on that.





Dr. J is still alive and well, you can follow him daily @DrJayJack on Twitter.

Strictly Platonic?

Today, something happened and I talked to one of my HOME BOYS in the most platonic way. He was updating me on his life, and I realized that I have some of the most AWESOME male friends. Sometimes when I am sad or down, these wonderful guys can always make me laugh.
OR...
Sometimes they just appreciate DC Bup for her.

But most of all they give me hope that there remains some good guys out there. I mean, my male homies are TOTALLY on Point. These men are handsome, intellectual, professional, genuine, ambitious, and caring men.

PAUSE...

Dammit ...Clearly I am Friend zoning the wrong guys??

HA! J/K

Honestly, I truly love these men. But just not like dat. And although we both recognize the GREAT things about each other, we understand we are not... we just not like dat!

PSA: MAN HATING WON'T GET YOU A MAN!

So I am a big fan of twitter and find myself on it quite regularly. It has helped me to stay connected with many people from home, keeps me abreast of the latest headlines, and often adds humor to my day. However I have found that it often pisses me off as well. These are some example tweets that tend to ruffle my feathers:

- Where are the real men that recognize a real woman when she is staring them in the face.

- #retweetthisif you tired of niggas wifin' up the skankiest of the whores, sluts, and and hood rats they can find!!!

- All these niggas are DOGS out here! And I am not in the mood to train a nigga not to piss on the carpet!

- I'm a BOSS so why do these sub par men keep plaguing my LIFE!

- I am tired of aint shit niggas wasting my time. Are there any real men left?!

Public Service Announcement: If you want a DECENT guy STOP THE MAN HATING!

*The following may come off a bit brash*

Needless to say some of these people had to get "unfollowed" because there constant negativity clogging up my timeline is beyond annoying. Even if these are your feelings keep them to yourself! Men see this shit and RUN for the hills. It doesn't make them want to step up to the challenge it makes them want to RUN THE F*CK AWAY! Who the hell are you to be passing such judgment anyway?! If these niggas are dogs quit being the "bitch" that fucks them all willy nilly! And why does the woman that these particular men DO decide to wife have to be a skank, a whore, or a hoodrat?! Do you secretly wish you were that skank, whore, or hoodrat? I personally do not know any man that would wife a woman of that caliber. Like mind your damn business and maybe you can find a man!

And on top of all that LADIES WHEN DO YOU START TO EXAMINE YOURSELF?! Many women I know who make these statements LOOK FOR LOSERS to date. If a nice guy with their stuff together does approach them he is boring, or lame, or can't handle them! Raise your damn standards. And maybe you are not ready for that ideal man because you still airing your bitter sentiments on every social network there is and Lord knows that is not working in your favor!

*Back to being positive*

This kind of talk is ugly and not becoming and the sooner women realize that the sooner they may find Mr. Right and be happy. Use this time of single solitude as self reflection. Contrary to popular belief 23-28 is still relatively young ladies. Just because you have not found Mr. Right yet does not give you the right to generalize the majority of men as "no good". I can understand an occasional tweet about a bad experience with a man but let's not let it be the focal point of your online identity because that's what it becomes. In addition with this type of thinking you will find yourself lonely for a long time! Be patient and stop looking for him and he will come.

Ladies you are beautiful and better than this so stop the man hating. It is not classy!

With Your Broke A$$

At last the bougie side overcomes... bare with me.

Being constantly broke is NOT BUPPIE!

I can't stand broke people. Correction I can't stand broke people who try to hang like they can afford it. Let me further clarify. I am talking about those people who have good paying jobs. However, these people just BLOW their money. Stop living your life like a damn RAP VIDEO!

Wake the EFF up you idiot! You always got money OR You always broke at the wrong times.

We want to go to the club. "I don't have any gas money."

DC Bup thinks: "BITCH YOU DRIVING A MOTHEFFIN BMW. AIN'T NOBODY TELL YOU TO GET A CAR THAT TAKES 93 EFFING GRADE GAS. SHOULD HAVE GOT YOUR BROKE A$$ A MOTHEREFFIN SOLARA."

Then when we get to the sophisticated establishment, your broke a$$ face is all tight. Why? Because you can't get any drinks. Then, you got to shyt on everyone else's night with that "I am ready go all early" BS. #childplease

Those broke folk can really put a damper on the moves you are trying to make. Honestly, buppies all have moments of when we are broke (I call it budget control), but guess what? I have a wii, a dvd player, and a 14.99 Netflix account. I know how to stay my a$$ at home. DO YOU?!

The Rise of Wives

Women are “increasingly better-educated than their husbands and have emerged as the dominant income-provider in one of five marriages,” according to a new Pew Research Center study. “What’s radically changed is that marriage now is a better deal for men,” said report co-author Richard Fry. These trends have been reinforced by the recession, which has “hurt employment of men more than that of women.”

I posed this question on twitter the other day. "If had 2 masters degrees and drove a range rover, would you marry me?"

I got 2 proposals! ...from women. (NO HOMO and It was in jest but still..)

I hear very few buppie men say that they are ok with marrying women who may make a bit more money OR have more education. I mean women are raised to seek stability. So a man with a stable income, is desirable. Whereas men are raised to be breadwinners. If technically, the woman is the breadwinner, how attractive is that situation?



...Obviously a woman with 2 masters degrees and a Range Rover are NOT. LOL <--- The District's Buppie in 5 years.