The Rise of Wives

Women are “increasingly better-educated than their husbands and have emerged as the dominant income-provider in one of five marriages,” according to a new Pew Research Center study. “What’s radically changed is that marriage now is a better deal for men,” said report co-author Richard Fry. These trends have been reinforced by the recession, which has “hurt employment of men more than that of women.”

I posed this question on twitter the other day. "If had 2 masters degrees and drove a range rover, would you marry me?"

I got 2 proposals! ...from women. (NO HOMO and It was in jest but still..)

I hear very few buppie men say that they are ok with marrying women who may make a bit more money OR have more education. I mean women are raised to seek stability. So a man with a stable income, is desirable. Whereas men are raised to be breadwinners. If technically, the woman is the breadwinner, how attractive is that situation?



...Obviously a woman with 2 masters degrees and a Range Rover are NOT. LOL <--- The District's Buppie in 5 years.

My Degree Got Me Single

“Black men are more likely to marry outside of their race, and black women are more likely to marry outside of their education."

-Hannah Bruckner, who leads the Center for Research on Inequalities and the Life Course at Yale University, says the disparity can be partly explained by a difference in dating preferences between some black men and women.

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Well Damn! and so my rant begins.

This is not a new topic, but this particular quote is a summarization of what many of my single buppie women are dealing with, comprising our values to date a black man. SMH.

Query to black men:

Is it an issue for a black woman to have more education than a black man? Is it possible or even likely that black men are insecure and unable to deal with a woman that has more education? Could it be that our black men are slower to develop professionally than men of other races?

Is it my fault that I excel, and value education? Should I just quit, sit home, and play video games? Is that really what you want?

NO! When black men do date outside their race, the OTHER chick is most likely still just as educated.

Although it may seem that my position is one sided, I am not making assumptions about all black men. However, I have realized for some men, my desire to progress professionally may be an issue. That is perfectly ok because I am just not that kind of mans type. We (black women who prefer to get theirs) should get over this (per Dr.J)and MOVE ON! GUESS what?! Uneducated men are not my type, so I’m MOVING ON!

It seems that decent black men are limited commodities. If you got one, congrats to you boo! But even those decent ones left, got issues. Social awkwardness, emotional deficiencies, overly evasive, etc. Plainly, these limited commodities know that they are in such high demand, that even the UGLY ones have the most courage these days to trying to bag the beautiful Lauren Londons, and Gabby Unions types.

Some of these limited commodities are living in LALA land. Hmph (Rolls Eyes). I had a male buppie tell me that he could not be with a woman making more money then him. GTFOH! Baby, in this world, this is bound to happen! So what we going to do then? Be stuck? Me, barefoot and preggers, because you’re comfortable with your salary? If you are insecure about $$ then F^&K it, I’m not your type.

I realize, that I am not everyone’s cup of tea. I am also not one of those women caught up on the notion of being with a black man. Break out and date outside your race!

In essence, the same discrimination these black men are giving us women, is the same discrimination I am giving them right back. SHEEEEEIT. I can’t do it. You got to want to get better with me babe! Not stifle me or penalize me for my book smarts.

US Economy: Are We Out the Game?

"The United States economy is like a poker game where the chips have become concentrated in fewer and fewer hands, and where the other fellows can stay in the game only by borrowing. When their credit runs out the game will stop"
-Marriner Stoddard Eccles

Frugal Buppie

"It can be cheap but it can't look cheap. Don't do trends just do you."
-Anonymous

80/20 Rule

Damn Damn Damn.
Don't we all hate that 80/20 rule?

The Rule: In our relationships, our partner is most likely only able to offer 80% of what we need. There are times when we will find someone who fills in the wholes, offering the other 20%…and because it’s been missing for so long, you think you’ve finally found what you truly need. But be careful taking risks of cheating, or leaving your 80%…because what you will be left with, is that 20%. Obviously this is no where near as fulfilling as being with someone who offers 80%.

Tell me your 80/20 Story!

A Decent Analogy from Steve Harvey

Quite often in the morning I listen to the Steve Harvey Show and I must say I enjoy it. The one thing that I particularly appreciate about Steve Harvey is the fact that when it comes to relationships he tells it like it is! ESPECIALLY to the WOMEN! He does not sugar coat anything for the ladies and points out things that we should know about the male psyche and where a lot of women make common mistakes when dealing with men. And these common mistakes are ones they make over and over and then wonder why they still don't have the man they so desperately want. He was also saying how men can only get away with what you let them and will only push the envelope as far as you will allow as a woman. Today was a particularly interesting show because a male listener wrote in talking about the "game" of men and it spurred up some interesting dialogue. Steve went back to a lot of the common complaints he gets from women about men and put it in a spiritual perspective.

Women are always saying they are doing what they should to get a man looking in the right places and such when in actuality they are not. Then they go asking GOD why haven't you sent me my soulmate yet. GOD is similar to a football coach. He says run down 5 yards do a lil jook and jive then cut over 10 yards. The player says ok. So then the player goes out runs down 5 yards does a lil jook and jive and then cuts over only 6 yards and goes hollering "I'm open!" The play doesn't work because the player doesn't follow the coaches instructions. And the coach is like wait, wait did you not hear what I said? So they run the play again and the player starts well again and at the end runs 8 yards instead of 10 and guess what....the play still doesn't work. Well in the cases we are talkin about women are wondering why their play hasn't worked but GOD is saying I told you not to sleep with that man yet. OR I told you not to start talking to that same man you been messing with again just because this other thing aint work. These mistakes that women make are equivalent to not following the coach's play instructions and then they wonder why GOD hasn't sent them their perfect man yet. He may have sent him and you just misread the play!

You know what Steve.... I think this is a GREAT analogy!

Bobby Kennedy Predicts Future?

He gave a speech to the Voice of America all around the world 40 years ago. And despite what was going on in the country, particularly in Alabama, Bobby Kennedy said this: "Things are 'moving so fast in race relations a Negro could be president in 40 years."

This is in 1968, we're now in 2008.

"There's no question about it," the attorney general said. "In the next 40 years a Negro can achieve the same position that my brother has." ...Kennedy said that prejudice exists and probably will continue to ... "But we have tried to make progress and we are making progress. We are not going to accept the status quo."

- Robert F. Kennedy, Washington Post, May 27, 1968

John Kerry with a Tan

Norquist describes Obama as ‘John Kerry with a tan’
By: Steve Benen

Grover Norquist has quite a history of being unhinged. He’s said the Estate Tax is morally equivalent to the Nazi Holocaust; he’s called WWII veterans “anti-American,” and he’s called bipartisanship “another name for date rape.” But this clown isn’t done pushing the envelope. Norquist dropped by The Times’ Washington bureau today and, as part of his negative critique of Obama’s liberal stances on economic issues and other matters, he termed the presumptive Democratic presidential nominee “John Kerry with a tan.” Since Norquist isn’t running for anything, he can get away with such remarks; we doubt McCain will be incorporating the line into his speeches anytime soon. Greg Sargent responded, “Guess it could have been worse. He could have termed the Illinois Senator ‘John Kerry in blackface.’ Such admirable restraint on Norquist’s part! It’s worth keeping in mind that John McCain has been cozying up to Norquist lately. Maybe some enterprising young political reporter can ask why McCain would want to be associated with this clown.

Obama's and Fox NEWS

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Obviously if you work at Fox News you can get away with anything.

"Fox News Channel referred to Michelle Obama as "Obama's baby mama"

"Fox anchor E.D. Hill has apologized for referring to an affectionate onstage fist bump shared by the couple as a "terrorist fist jab," and Fox contributor Liz Trotta said she was sorry for joking about an Obama assassination."

Finding the Right Woman

ON FINDING THE RIGHT WOMAN

“… It’s so hard to find a good woman who’s gonna help build the family and not be so interested in just building herself. I could be like any other male wannabe celebrity out there and hang out and date a bunch of people. Of course, there’s a beautiful opportunity to be out there and free. Why not eat up all the fruit on the trees? But the end result is that those things bring a dishonor to the family, and I will have served nobody but myself. I’ve sacrificed what I want to do for the sake of my family, and that’s what I need.”

Terrence Howard

Crispus Attucks

"TODAY'S LABOR HISTORY: British soldiers, quartered in the homes of colonists, took the jobs of working people when jobs were scarce. On this date, grievances of ropemakers against the soldiers led to a fight. Soldiers shot down Crispus Attucks, a black colonist, then others, in what became known as the Boston Massacre. Attucks is considered the first casualty in the American Revolution (1770)."


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Do yall know this dude was killed on accident. The bammas speared this dude, because they thought he threw a rock or something....

yet another reason why blacks should get reparations ...

Quotes of Interest

"the percentage of African-American women between 25-54 who have never been married has doubled from 20% to 40% in the past fifty years. (Compared to just 16% of white women who have never been married today)." -From It Does not Suck to be a Black Woman

Comments: WTF

"The District's AIDS rate is the worst of any city in the country, nearly twice the rate in New York and more than four times the incidence in Detriot, and it has been climbing faster than that of many jurisdictions."
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"More than 80 percent of the 3,269 HIV cases identified between 2001 and 2006 were among black men, women and adolescents."
From Study Calls HIV in D.C Modern Epidemic

Comments: WRAPP IT UP BEE!!!