Buppie Defined

Urban dictionary defines Buppie as

Buppie -A highly sophisticated and upper class black person. Usually a Black city or suburban resident with a well-paid professional job and an affluent lifestyle.

b(lack) + (y)uppie.

The following defines a list of why I consider myself a Buppie:

(Disclaimer: This may not be why you are a Buppie, but it’s why I am.)

• I have a great job, hence the professional part.
• I like to explore the arts and all things worldly. No! I am not stuck or set on the “hood” lifestyle. Move me up and out, and around.
• Me live in the suburbs?? Do I look barefoot and preggers??! Hayle naw.A true Buppie lives in the midst of where is goes down. ..The city. Even if you don’t live there…you are close and spend most of your time there.
• I have a great FICO score. Buppie's have a good cash flow. We understand it’s important to maintain good credit to buy land, cars, and clothes.
• My friends are buppies and if you are not… Chances are we are not that close. Some people may find buppies pompous, high siddity. Those are the people who cannot understand a buppie has a high level of taste and class.
• I read. A good buppies reads books, articles, and watches some TV shows of educational value (cnbc, hbo…)

Disrespected!

Dear Buppie:
There is a female I was trying to see what was good with. I told my homeboy that I was trying to get at her. Next thing I know she and my homeboy are hooking up. I am starting to think my homeboy is shady. He did not even let me know he was getting at her. Now every time I see them together I feel some type of way…
How should I feel? And what should I do?

-Disrespected

Disrespected,
There is one rule to the GAME that must be recognized here:
“Bros before Hoes” and my female sisters no disrespect as that rule applies justly to us. “Bros before Hoes” in this case, because. He was your Homeboy before this chick...While he could have at least had the decency to let you know they were hooking up, he did not. Nonetheless he is still your friend. Take this situation as a lesson about him and yourself. You know how he operates. While I am sure he did not purposely not tell you, I am sure he did not think too much of it. This is where the “Hoes” part comes in. “Hoes” are expendable, temporary, for fun. I think you homeboy was not even paying that much attention to the entire situation.

Now for you:
I doubt you were truly even feeling this chick. I think it’s mostly a shot at your ego because she chose your homeboy and not you. I feel you dude. But you have to overcome this.
The best way I have seen people adjust to this, is to become a temporary hater. Now be careful not to make hating a permanent personality feature. Hate to only trusted people, or keep all your hate to yourself. (Hate is contagious)

Let me be clearer: You know that the girl is not all that fly, or you know you man can not do such and such better than you. Keep it real, and every time you see them together smile. You know why you smile? Because you know that you have a one up on that chick and your man, and you were LUCKY not to have hooked up with her. An example of this hating could be,

“Wow I just noticed she has a flat ass.
Wow, my man's swag is not even on my level.
This chick falls for anything.
Wow. She has a shady attitude.”

This way you appreciate yourself, give yourself ego boosts, and above all you will see how this situation worked in your favor.

Thanks for Asking the Buppie!

Quotes of Interest

"the percentage of African-American women between 25-54 who have never been married has doubled from 20% to 40% in the past fifty years. (Compared to just 16% of white women who have never been married today)." -From It Does not Suck to be a Black Woman

Comments: WTF

"The District's AIDS rate is the worst of any city in the country, nearly twice the rate in New York and more than four times the incidence in Detriot, and it has been climbing faster than that of many jurisdictions."
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"More than 80 percent of the 3,269 HIV cases identified between 2001 and 2006 were among black men, women and adolescents."
From Study Calls HIV in D.C Modern Epidemic

Comments: WRAPP IT UP BEE!!!

Sexy Music

My Boo Raheem Devaugnh is back looking sexy as ever! I don't even know what it is about about him. His music is such a turn-on. Beyond all that Raheem music is good! Lyrically intense, he knows his voice and uses it well. I can not wait till the album drops!

Support our Black Films

For some reason, I have not heard too much buzz about this movie. This is definitely something a true buppie will support. IS this getting the media attention it deserves?
Comes out DEC 25! GO SEE it!

The Great Debaters - Trailer

Posted Nov 05, 2007

A drama based on the true story of Melvin B. Tolson, a professor at Wiley College Texas. In 1935, he inspired students to form the school's first debate team, which went on to challenge Harvard in the national championship.

VOTE!

Buppie's Vote Consciously. I have not made my decision. But its good that this is the most diverse campaign race.

Buppie Women…Destined to be lonely?

Buppie Women…Destined to be lonely?

I just returned from a lovely DC outing, where it was full of black urban professionals (buppies).

While I was awaiting my shot of rum, I came across a very friendly black male. Good looking, educated as we spoke of being in similar colleges in the same vicinity of each other, and was able to carry an interesting conversation. He initiated the conversation and soon we found out he wrote his thesis on the country in which I was from. He said he lived in Capitol Hill, had a very interesting job where he got to travel internationally. He also held 2 degrees from prestigious institutions. The nature of our conversation was friendly.

I invited my home girl over to the bar area to meet him, and somehow the conversation switched to relationships. It came up that he is what a buppie woman would be attracted to. Men like him, I have found tend to be “wanted’ and “in high demand”. Therefore they have the opportunity to juggle many women, without the need to get in relationships. (limited supply= high demand). There is nothing wrong with this, unless you are that woman wanting to get into this relationship.

He goes on to say. Yes he could be like that but he is not. He mentions one case: He met a woman. She realized what I realized that he “has it going on”. But as their relationship developed, her insecurity with his “got it going on-ness” surfaced. She made excuses for not getting to much closer. This to some will be all too familiar began saying things like “You are not ready to settle, you still want to be with other women, and you should go out with you other girls.” This, to my newfound homeboy, showed him her spewing insecurities. He was turned off, especially since he was not trying to be with other women.

So that raised a red flag to me. A clear discrepancy, a fallacy, something is not right here in this game of buppie love and like.

The questions are:

Buppie women, are we insecure with buppie men?

Why do we crave buppie men?

Why does it appear buppie men are limited?

Why do buppie men have the opportunity to exploit buppie women?

It appears to me it’s a cycle

Woman are 50% more likely to become buppie than men. -->Thus there are more buppie women entering the world then men. -->Buppie men are rare. -->Buppie men can choose from a wide array of women. -->Why chose? Have them all the buppie male philosophy. -->Buppie women become insecure.

So are men the reason for a women’s insecurity? Not directly, a lot has to do with the evolution of our society, and how men and women have been socialized, but I would say yes.

What would you say?

Monogamy is a bad word

One of my sorority sister's recently got out of a relationship in which she found out homeboy cheated on her. Now she is all intrigued with cheating and has been conducting interviews with friends to get their opinions.

This took me back to when I committed the crime of cheating.That previous experience is primarily the reason why I don't cheat. I learned my lesson the first time. No need for repeats.

Its 2007 though. Monogamy is almost a bad word. I mean for real, I look at myself and my future and I realize that my husband is 90% likely to cheat on me, and I am 85% sure I will stay with him.

I credit this phenom to desensitization from the Media: Reality TV, Bill Clinton, Music. Cheating is exciting, Cheating is acceptable in the family, and its cool to cheat. Everyone does it.

Whatever it is, people need to be careful. My thing with cheating is if you are engaging in sexual activities with another individual, you might as well be charged with First degree murder.
With all these diseases going on, one involved with such a risky behavior has to at least increased their likelihood to die by 50%. If not by an STD, but maybe by the person you are cheating on. (SEE any episode of Cheaters).

I also feel that if you are not ready for monogamy, then don't do it. You have got to let your partner know the truth! It is life or death you are playing with. Do not trivialize it.

First Impressions are Lasting Impressions

Good evening to the world. I will be known to you as the District's Buppie. It is my pleasure to have brought this blog spot to your reading pleasure. You see, I enjoy blogging. I enjoy expressing myself. Expression is beautiful in all forms. I will tell you I am not a poet. I am...what I am..

I was told that as a professional woman, it is important that you have solid introduction. A memorized type of spill. But I dislike those parameters. I like to say whatever I feel when I feel it.
Can you tell? Probably not because we are given so many restrictions in this world, that deprive us from being ourselves.

When I hear the phrase, "Me, Myself, and I". I believe that brings true representation of who were are as humans. We are all "fronting". We all don't keep it totally "real".

So when I am asked to introduce myself...What do I say. Depends, if they want to meet "Me, Myself, or I."

Me: A 20 something black female, who overly blunt, selfish, and frighten. Me is the type of girl to do everything by herself if she could. she worries only about herself and can at times be ruthless as she makes her way to the top.

Myself: Silly, careless and smiley. Totally appreciative and loves and thrives in the company of people.

I: I comes off ass well spoken, polite, educated. If you were to meet her, she would intimated you with her how strong she comes off..all the time she is being kind.


Whew...So who would you like to meet first???