Monday, June 8, 2009

What does the Buppie do for love?

As a young professional in DC, it’s almost impossible to find time. Time, the one thing you can never get back is pretty much almost always spent. I work roughly 50-60 hours a week, which factors out to about 12 hours a day, 5 days a week. (In reality that’s like 8-9 hours, seven days a week.) When I’m not working, I’m trying to work off the stress of work which leads me to the nightlife hot spots. So no, I do not have time to go to other places to meet people, I’m trying to work off some of this disposable income.

Complicating this issue is the fact that I’m heavily based in NYC, most of my friends live there, and I love that city. So I’m in NYC at least twice a month. So we’re talking about six days a month in which I’m in DC and not working. And in those days, I’m usually out trying to get it in. I don’t like to meet women in the club because I just don’t think it’s ever going to go anywhere. I’m also convinced that most women are only interested in my stats; Do I live at home? Do I have a good job? Roughly how much do I make? Do I have a car? What school did I go to? Do I have any kids?.. etc. etc. etc.

Inevitably, most of the women I meet ARE met in these lounges and clubs, and usually are through friends of friends. And I still don’t have enough time to seriously date them. Of course I could make time, but enn… I’m trying to enjoy my time away from work 100%. I also know that I’m fair too good to deal in drama and turmoil. So I don’t play games. I don’t have time for it, and I know I’m better than that.

I could date some of my co-workers, they know my lifestyle and they know how my work can be overwhelming at times. But as the last girl I used to work with that I dated says, “Don’t shit where you eat.” This is while she was sleeping with me…. I told you I don’t believe these women. I could date the women who are in my industry. Please note, that in my line of work, there aren’t many Black women and the ones who are there, know that they are the crème of the crop. It is nothing worse than a woman who’s got it going on, than a woman who KNOWS she’s got it going on. She won’t take nothing for nothing. They let you know in a heartbeat what the law of the land is. And honestly, until we are in a relationship, quit it with the law.

So these are my scheduling issues and lack of time to dedicate to the effort. In an upcoming blog I will address how I feel sorry for women trying to find these brothers out in DC. In addition to complicated schedules and goals, they have to factor in that we are the good men. And those good men KNOW they are good men and they fall into three categories; Single and focused on the career, Single because they know they can have whoever they want whenever, Single because they just don’t have the time or the effort to dedicate the time, and then there’s Single and looking. Only 25% of the men are dateable, now that sucks.

What should I do? What are you suggestions for how this buppie can find love? I feel like LL Cool J, I need love.

Keep it 100.


True2me said...

You have to really want it Dr. J..and well, you don't

Doesn't sound like your lifestyle can as you say "fit a girl in" or just take it one day at a time..dont make it seem like something on your list

she will fall in your lap one day (maybe figuratively and literally lol)

good luck

FiGZ said...

True2me said it all. Nothing forced is ever genuine and will never stand the test of time.

The District's Buppie said...

Well, Dr J aint the only dude out here on the same tip. Its a new age(of Dating) around us.PPL aint thinking the ole "2 heads are better than 1". Its more of a " all about me", and instead of compromise, buppies sometimes are harsh and if it( S.O) doesnt fit, you must acquit type of attitude, leaves us very single!

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