How many people are tired of talking about gold-diggers, groupies, jumpoffs, and hoes?
Not me, but I’m sure some of you are. LOL. It came to my attention a few weeks back that there are other types of tricking that are commonly overlooked. Just because some girl is not in the club chasing after a baller or celebrity doesn’t mean she’s not chasing.
I went to an undergraduate business school and there was a particular girl in my class who was known for always bringing some type of dessert to class 3-4 times a semester. No she wasn’t fat, she was actually perfectly sized and kept herself together nicely. I remember when we had a course together and she talked about what she wanted to be when she grew up. My jaw dropped when she said, “I would like to earn my degree, get married, have a family and then open my own catering business so that I can have time to devote to my husband and children.”
You decided that you wanted to go through four years of Finance to open a catering business? (I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to drop Beta Sigma Phi aka B.S. in Finance while taking Securities & Derivatives.) You can’t be serious. But in fact she was. See she had it all figured out and some women should take heed. She placed herself in the line of fire with the men she thought would give her the best chance to marry rich. She was in class with all the finance majors who would be leaving college and accepting jobs at some of the best firms in America. Her momma didn’t raise no fool. She was in college to meet a husband. Her chocolate covered strawberries were merely a way to show all the men in our class how great it would be to come home to a woman who could throw down like that on the daily.
I’m sure many of you have already drawn conclusions about this young lady, but to be honest with you a lot of women do the same thing, but in different ways. Can I piss ‘em off? “Piss em off Jay!” – Buppie Nation.
Preying on MBA, JD, and MD students
There are several women who prey on the men in top graduate professional programs across America. I mean, why chase some baller who makes millions who doesn’t really have any plans to settle down, when you can be the princess of a guy who is about to come out of school making a cool $220K? Makes sense right. I admit to you, I’ve given this advice to many of women who are seeking to get married. I tell them, go to Columbia and find you a 1st year MBA student, he won’t know why this grown woman is treating him so nice. He might wife you down, and when he makes it big, you’re in the money.
Frequenting upscale bars where bankers, lawyers, doctors, etc. go for happy hour
LOL. You know women tell me where to meet men at and I tell them get in the line of fire. I can only speak for DC, so bear with me. If you want to meet men of good stature, stay out of the Park at 14th for happy hour. The type of people who are there on the regular don’t have real jobs or they’re too old to be in Park on a Thursday shopping for women anyway. However, let me recommend you go to Elephant & Castle. That’s where all the lawyers hang out and talk about work when they’re letting loose for a few before they go back to work. The moral of the story is get in the line of fire. Find out where the type of man you want likes to go and go there.
Go tell it on the mountain that you have found some success
Here’s a little known secret about men of a certain stature, “Birds of a feather flock together.” So women if you meet a guy and you are thanking 6 lb. baby Jesus for bringing you this gift, phone a friend, post on the message board, blog about it, or tweet about it. Women need to stick together. Most successful men only associate with other successful men because they’d like to have something in common with their network. If they would like to go to dinner at McCormick & Schmick’s they don’t want to hang around some noodle who would rather go to Applebee’s.
Play the role. Be the change you want to see in the world.
If you want a man to wife you down. Show him what it will be like to be with you, and to one day be married to you. Don’t stress him out. Be the type of woman he wants his mom to meet. Don’t have him wondering if you are going to be faithful to him or not. Let him know that you are dedicated to things like; the gym, bettering yourself through reading and study, keeping a good house, learning how to cook several dishes and servings for those dishes, and the list goes on.
So there are some tips or clues to how women who are trying to get that MRS are doing outside of the club and All-Star weekend. If you think I’m coming off brash or egotistical, I’m merely giving it to you straight from the Mind of a Man. Now before I let you go, let me remind you, tricking is still tricking. But at the end of the day, I think we all need to evaluate our goals and where we want to be and get there. Don’t worry about what people think about you, if in the end you get what you want.