Sunday, August 24, 2008
"When will you get Married"
Hayle Naw. I just got an invite on Facebook for a "When will you get married" application?
Are you effing kidding me?
Maybe its just me, but Marriage does not appeal to me.
I used to think Marriage is only necessary for kids. Meaning, when I was ready to have kids, I would get married. Prior to that we could just be engaged or long term Boyfriend and Girlfriend for all I care. This recently changed, when I realized that is not necessary either. What if I was ready to have kids but my Boyfriend was not? He can easily be a sperm donor, and I could raise them on my own.
Nevertheless, we are Buppie's in our 20's. There is a lot of pressure for us to make that NEXT step. We have the good job, nice crib, etc. Even now when I meet buppies over 28 and they are not married or in a serious relationship, I ask them why? Must be something wrong with them! Reality is they are probably thinking just like me. Marriage is not necessary to be happy!
What scares me is this, at this point in our lives, it is quite possible for your next relationship to be the end all? He/She could be your potential mate. YUCK! That sounds boring. Within 3 months of dating, you already did everything possible with each other. NOW you talking about LIFE!!! **shakes my head** Nope. Then you want HALF. Half on my food, income, etc. I am a selfish Buppie and I am not trying to share. Then to find someone bringing what you bringing to the table? Female Buppies we already touched on how hard that is!
Ultimately, society stop making me feel like I am worthless for enjoying being a black urban professional who is upwardly mobile and not wanting to get engaged tomorrow!! Can WE bask in our Buppieness! GEEZ!