Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Can our small circle really afford our lifestyles?

This will be a short blog.

Have we ever thought if our circles can really afford our dating lifestyles? I think that every buppie has seen that our circle is small. Everyone knows everyone. And when that happens it's extremely hard to date because you feel that if it doesn't work out you end up losing a part of your circle. So how do we date? I think it comes down to a few things, they have been stated before, but let's state them again;

We all need to exhibit a sense of maturity in dating. Often times, we have this childish approach to dating. You have to acknowledge that sometimes it won't work out, but that doesn't mean you have to completely dead that contact. People need to be able to take the good with the bad. You just aren't compatible with everyone. And what that means is that sometimes you will date people and it won't work out. Don't be childish and start calling that person grimy and how your friends shouldn't eff with them because you don't anymore. Grow up and be an adult, you tried, you failed, it is what it is.

As determined people in our professions we like a plan. Well sometimes things will not go to plan. We need to be able to move on from that. Our plan for our dating life will not always go the way we want them to go. We will have to compromise, we will have to as Luther says, Wait For Love. Honestly, people will think that someone is not that into them because they don't spend every waking moment with them. Or they don't respond to every text message. Acknowledge that people are busy and there is no pre-requisite that they reply to each one of your text messages or communication. As long as you're moving forward don't become impatient.

Well people this is my last note, but in conclusion realize that your priorities are different. A girl may be trying to get her professional career together and she doesn't have time to see you everyday, and vice versa. Know that in a 60 hour work week, when the weekend comes there are plenty of people in the network that have to be seen. There will be weekends when you want to see your boo, but he just wants to see his friends. He may have other commitments and so may you. Now we all know that we all make time for what we want to make time for. But I think it's fair for me to say, a girl/boy may not be the top priority for a buppie. My lively-hood will be here regardless of some significant other and I treat it as such.

These are my unsolicited thoughts. But what say you, agree or disagree?

Dr. J

The doors of the church are now open.


True2me said...

i can't even disagree...good points of them all

Especially the last one...people may have different work schedules and party schedules and what not..

FiGZ said...

I would add communication as well, but you hit the nail on the head. Communication would be the umbrella of all of these. If someone is busier than the other it might be able to work out. Communication is the key that will help to remove the smoke and mirrors from a future catastrophe.

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