Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Should We Be Stressin?

At 25 years of age how much should you really know about where you are headed and what you want to do with your life?

This is the question that Best Bup has been asking herself a lot lately. She is kind of worried, as she puts it 5 steps from being frantic, because she feels she has no direction of where her life is going and what she should be doing. She often asks me, "What are we gonna do after we leave Korea?" And my thoughts are, "Well damn I don't know we just got here." However, 3 out of our first 12 months have passed in a blur and I know that the rest of the months are going to fly by too. There are many questions I ask myself when thinking about this.

How long will I live overseas?

When I do return to the states what is my plan of action?

When I do return how am I going to make ends meet in this sh*tty economy?

Am I going to grad school?

Do I really want to work for somebody again or do I want to go into business for myself?

Where am I going to live when I get back?

The whole thought of it stresses me out so I try not to think about it and just live in the moment. Then I think realistically at 25 years of age how much should I really know about what I want to do with my life? How much direction should I really have and if I am stuck and do not have much direction at this point in time should I be stressed?

For you bups out there that have it all figured out I am applauding you right now at my keyboard! (Applause) And for the others that are still unsure about exactly where your life is headed, particularly professionally, are you worried?


Dr. J said...

Can I be real? To me, nothing bothers me more than a woman who doesn't have ambitions and a plan. A plan can change, but at a point in time, a plan is so necessary to keep you on task.

I think you shouldn't stress it, but I think it's nothing wrong with putting on paper where you really want to be in a year, 3, 5, 10. Those things may change, but at least you have a map to go off. I think leaving the things up in the air causes you to stress.

Tip: When you develop this plan, listen to Lose Yourself - Eminem. That way you won't let your perception of reality bound your dreams.

FiGZ said...

First, I Co-Sign everything Dr. J says...

Second, living stress free is living in the moment. This is actually the perfect time to go in business for yourself, but that's up to you. I am a firm believer and practitioner of not being stressed (I have a knack for not letting things get me out off character or bothering me one bit). We are all different though. Some are presented with opportunities sooner rather than later, which is the case for others. It's luck I guess, since luck is when opportunity meets preparation. It never really is luck when you think about's all about being prepared, that's all. Good luck in whatever you two do ;-)

Up&Coming Buppie said...

Dr. J I actually do have a 3, 5, and 10 year plan. (The 5-year plan changes a lot however the 10 year seems semi-concrete.) In the 3 year was to move overseas and live among a different culture for a while so I guess I am following it. I am just a having a hard time figuring out what exactly I should do next. I guess time will tell me. I will be sure "Best Bup" sees you all's feedback as well.

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