So a fellow buppie who I am quite close to has started seeing a really nice guy. He is considerate, honest, patient, attentive, sweet, and white. After being around him a few times I have gotten to know him and he is a great guy. He is funny and down even though he is whiter than white. It's so funny because one day we were watching a movie and in the scene people were camping out in their backyard. My friend and I were like who really camps out in the backyard? He looked up kind of puzzled like you all never camped out in the back yard when you were kids? We both looked up like dawg we're black! And on top of that we are from the hood. It wasn't really safe. So there are cultural differences but he is a lot of fun and great to be around. And I feel like I am seeing him too. He never lets either of us pay when we go to eat and when I stay at my fellow buppie's house he often brings us breakfast. Perfect man!
Here is my problem. It's like after hearing these stories told from my fellow buppie people get into this state like "Yeah girl that's how white men are! You need to keep him. Aint no black man gonna treat you as good as a he will" Even my fellow buppie has said that he is the most considerate man she has ever dated. But she honestly is having trouble getting past the fact that he is white. Here is my issue: A good man is a good man PERIOD! They do not come in colors! WTF?! I am certainly not against dating outside my race but I am not about to believe that if I want quality in a man I have to! That's a bunch of bs. I mean let's face it there are some triflin black men out there. Just like there are some white, asian, indian, or whatever other nationality you can think of, out there that are trifling as well.
All this positive reinforcement that my fellow buppie is getting is literally making me sick. It seems to me she is not getting it because she found a nice guy but because he is WHITE! Now if he was beating her ass all these same people would be screaming white devil. BLACK WOMEN DON'T SETTLE! I know I'm going to find a good man. Granted I am bias, which I think I have right to be, because I do want a black man. However, I am not discriminating as long as you love Jesus, are easy on the eyes, have a 401K, a good Fico score, and know how to seriously treat a woman, holla. Don't care what race you are, K?! Okay enough with my personal ad these are just some of my thoughts.