So I was talking to a friend about his relationship with a woman he was seeing and he explained to me that he had to end it. He said that she started asking about when they were going to be together, officially. He was perplexed by this and exclaimed "I told her I didn't want to be with anyone! I thought we had an understanding." I know this guy so I know he probably treated this woman really well even though he didn't want to be with her.
I explained the situation to my best friend and she was saying there were certain things men do and say which are misinterpreted by women. (At times men go through the same emotional misunderstandings but I believe it happens more with women because we are just more emotional beings.) A man may treat you a certain way and you may think that you are the leading lady, however, he is on a completely different page on how the relationship is defined. After all he did tell you "I'm really not trying to be in a relationship." But fellas when you say this ask yourself a few of these questions....
Do you hold her at night after you have sex?
Do you take her out?
Do you kiss her sometimes just to be affectionate?
Do you kiss her hello and goodbye?
Do you question her about what she does?
If you do any of these things this is what a LOT of women may think: We are working towards something. He likes me and enjoys having me around. We are in a RELATIONSHIP! He says he doesn't want a relationship right now but I think he will want one with me in time."
I mean can you honestly blame this woman for thinking this? You say one thing but you do something completely different. When men and woman have a casual relationship they usually both keep it casual and understand that there are certain things that you don't do, say or ask about. So after getting another woman's point of view I explained to my friend that he may have been a bit misleading with this woman. He understood but stood by the fact that even though he is not interested in being in a relationship he is still going to treat any woman that he deals with with the utmost respect. And I honestly could not argue with that.