The Kwanzaa E-Card

So before I went on vacation last week I got an e-card from a co-worker whom I very rarely converse with and do not know very well. It was wishing me a Happy Kwanzaa! I was immediately taken aback because I do not celebrate Kwanzaa and was wondering if I had done something, besides being born Black, to make this person think that I do celebrate Kwanzaa. Now in the past my mother and I, like many Black families, experimented with Kwanzaa with some neighboring families but realized it was not our cup of tea. I still sometimes get Kwanzaa cards from Black friends who I know celebrate the holiday. Hell, I even helped to put Kwanzaa celebrations together, not really knowing what I was doing, while I was in college. I'd book a room, or help get funding so the campus could be aware of Kwanzaa. Yet and still I did not celebrate the holiday.

My best bup told me about one time during the holidays she was walking out of Wal-mart and the Salvation Army person ringing the bell made a point to say her way, "Happy Kwanzaa!" Of course best bup had the wtf face. In my situation I politely responded back to my co-worker that I do not celebrate Kwanzaa. The person immediately responded apologetically. Like why not just say "Seasons Greetings" or "Happy Holidays" just to be safe and politically correct?! I don't wish all White people Happy Hanukkah because it is wrong and absurd to assume that all Whites are Jewish. So why assume that all Blacks celebrate Kwanzaa? Then I thought too this person really thought they were doing something special for me by wishing me a Happy Kwanzaa because I asked a few people around the office and no one else got an e-card except me and another Black woman who works in our office. (She does not celebrate Kwanzaa either so we shared a private laugh about the matter.)

Is it really the thought that counts and if so WTF was this person thinking?

FICO Broke During The Holidays

I am realizing that I am not a a festive person! I credit that to the way I was raised. Holidays were such a pain. I hated putting up trees. I hated going Christmas shopping. The only part I truly enjoy is the family getting together! What fun it is to be with your siblings, cousins, family friends just laughing and appreciating each other! The more I mature the more I count on these moments and less on receiving gifts.

Gifts are so minuscule. One thing that truly pains me is receiving useless and all around bad gifts. My mother is infamous for this. So I avoid doing what blows me. I give gift cards. The thought that I did not want to give you something useless, counts!

BUT this year. argh. BROKE. not even really broke but its a...I rather pay my bills than spend money on you broke. I guess that is FICO BROKE??? You all know what I mean. You look at your rent, you insurance for the new year, etc. and rationalize that this year your going to play the broke card, cus you just rather spend the money on yourself*!(FICO WORTHY)

*This excludes, accruing more debt. That is not FICO BROKE. That is Foreclosure BROKE. Not Cute Bups!


Anyway, the underlying point is in this day and age we really have to appreciate what we have. (I happen to have bills! LOL JK)

Whatever you celebrate, do not let the material things rule you! Enjoy the Holidays with the people you love Bups, and Be Safe!

GAS PRICES SMDH!

I do not trust these low GAS prices. How could GAS be $1.79 when just 4 months ago it was 4.79??? mmph. Sure Sure Gas companies. I know the reason why you are low balling now is because it is "Tis the SEASON". Probably every industry was calling each GAS CEO like, LET me get a little bit of that consumer ish. Stop being selfish!

Am I the only one who suspects that, After NEW YEARS, these companies are going back in for the kill?

Real talk, even though gas has decreased, the recession aint been getting no easier. People are still losing jobs, and folks still cannot afford to pay for their homes!

So after the season, and they raise prices back to $5.00, who will be their audience? Way less folks! I know for me, I plan only to be leaving my house to drive twice a week. Given that my company is HIP to the AGE. Telecommuting is very much in! Living in the city also has it benefits and I am really bout to get hip with the BUS!

We have got to fight back! We control the prices, not them!

Go Get My Business Card, N!GG3R!

About a week ago, a tragic incident occurred at work. A man was having a epileptic attack.

As I was walking toward my desk, someone ran up to me and frantically ask, "Do you know CPR?"

Quickly I responded "Yes, and little bit." I had to rehearse the steps in my head because CPR class was like 9th grade.

After running the halls to find the dude, I walk into a room to find this dude laid out on the floor surrounded by 3 co-workers, one of which was the VP of my segment. Everyone is huddled up on him.

I keep him calm, as he was not unconscious but he was clearly out of it. Another woman who was clearly more familiar of what to do in these situations, quickly talked to his wife, got his medications, etc. My role than became to console him, ensure he was breathing, and watch his pulse.

So EMS finally comes. All us extras move out the room, and watch EMS do their thing.

There is a crowd outside. We are all standing watching. I am for sure the only Black person within a mile. Looking like a tootise roll in a bag of flour! My VP leans over to me and says, "Can you do me a favor, Can you go to my desk and get me my business card. I want to give it to his Wife."

Of course I say, yes. In transit though, i really wonder why me? Out of all the folks standing around. He chose me to go run back and get his business card? Not the dude closer to him, who he was carrying a convo with. He breaks his convo, to say "HEY go fetch my cards, pick a pale of cotton while you at it!"

Am I tripping? I, the lone black girl who raaaaaan to the rescue of this unconscious white male, and now I have to go fetch some MOTHEREFFIN business cards????


So I bring them to him. He says thank you and does his VP thing. I just know he would at least thank me, and ask my name right? NOPE. EMS packs homeboy up. Praise the lord he is ok. Everyone disperses to their normal routine.


CORPORATE FOUL? ? I think so!

Buppie Don't: MISSING THE TARGET!

IF I threw it, I would not have missed...!

Obviously we all have seen this news report.

In Iraq, throwing shoes at someone is a sign of disrespect. Seems similar to the the middle finger in the US. thus the reporter was more so disrespecting Bush, than trying to physically harm him. (Even though both would have been great!)

Makes sense though. Shoes are some of the dirtiest things ever. And so is GW.

Anyway, this speaks to my Boy Obama's points. We have lost our place in the world. I mean this reporter threw a shoe at the US President? and you know what? 90% of Americans don't even give a fuck , and you know what 90% of the other countries secretly wish some from their country was brave enough to do it!

Just for another country to have the audacity to do this, shows the US aint even as hard as it used to be. Its analogous saying,"W e aint shyt."

Now, let that had been OBAMA. Man, me and my whole Neighborhood would have Flew to IRAQ and gave dude a good ole West Coast 10 Crpyts vs 1 Blood Beating!

SMDH....

The Upward March to 25

So it seems that nowadays 25 is this huge milestone age in which you must shape up and really know the direction in which your life needs to be going. The Close Confidant always laughs when I say this and tells me how young I am and how I do not need to be worrying about knowing every turn my life needs to make at this point. However, as one prepares for an age when you car insurance lowers, because you are supposed to be a more responsible adult, it does make you think like hmmm what am I doing on this ride called life?

According to some stats this is what is going on with many 25 year olds:

26% of people age 25 and over have completed four years or more of college in the United States (1)

4 million people between the ages of 25 and 34 live with their parents (1)

In the United States, the average age of marriage for men is 27 and for women 25 (up from 23 and 21 in 1970). Furthermore, research shows that many members of this generation reach the age of 35 without having attained the 1980s conception of a family: married, two kids and a minivan.” (1)

Between the ages of 25 and 34, individuals are in a range of different lifestages. It is a time when the lines between the values of being young and the values of being parents are blurred. Two-thirds are married or co-habiting, but the remaining third are still very much single. (2)

25-34s aren’t all getting married and having kids. Some are settling down while others are still enjoying their independence. (2)

1 (http://64.233.169.132/search?q=cache:l1ZdkxsE5u0J:www.uploadexperience.com/statistics.htm+25+year+old+statistics%2Bgrad+school&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=4&gl=us&client=firefox-a)

2 (http://64.233.169.132/search?q=cache:ZxumpR5q34EJ:www.bbc.co.uk/commissioning/marketresearch/audiencegroup3.shtml+25+year+olds+having+children&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=1&gl=us&client=firefox-a)

Here are some of my personal goals as I embark on 25.....

1) Grad School- I have been putting this off for a while but in order to realistically get to where I want to be in life it seems this is a necessity in my field. A bachelors is like equivalent to a h.s. diploma these days. All this debt for a damn glorified h.s. diploma!!! SMDH Time to make the next steps in higher education.

2) Live Abroad- It has always been my dream before I settle down, get married, and have children to live outside the US. I am indifferent on where as long as I can get a hot shower in doors and it is not too dangerous. I just want to be able to say I have experienced another culture and be able to talk about all the things I experienced with my family. You only get one life and I want mine to be lived to the fullest. I am developing this plan now and will expand upon this in a later post.

3) No longer entertaining toxic people- In the last few years since graduating college I have realized that I have entertained a lot of toxic people trying to change them or make myself more acceptable to them. FOR WHAT?! I guess maturity makes you realize how dumb this is and how easy it is to grow out of it. I am growing out of dealing with toxic people really quickly. If you are too judgemental, always complaining, make too many DUMB mistakes over and over, always want to argue I can't be bothered. I am a happy person and I refuse to let someone else's negativity bring me down. I understand people have negative spells, myself included, so I wont judge anyone's struggle. What I am talking about is constant toxins in your life that are NOT changing. Life is too damn short!

4) Invest- So I gotta get my money right. I am just now emerging out of the careless credit card debt I made in college so I am feeling liberated! Now it is time to figure out how to make my money GROW! I want to be able to retire before 60 so I need to get on this movement. Granted I have a company 401K but that junk seems useless to me. Maybe I just look at it too often so it doesn't seem to be accumulating at the pace that I'd like. Either way I am looking for some other ways to invest my money to make it grow and also not having to worry about the economy taking another plunge and the government taking it!

5) Become more spiritually in tune- This makes me happy PERIOD! Over the past year I have really been sticking to my nightly routine of reading my Bible every night when I am at home. This is the foundation of my happiness and gives me the ultimate insight on the person I want to be. I think with maturity and understanding, for me personally, spirituality and becoming a woman of faith is the core of my growth. Therefore I am trying to make strides to do this. I am FAR from the perfect Christian but hey, I am trying.

The Takeover (And the BS that comes with it)

So I work for a company that has been bought out by the competition. We were informed about it a few months ago so everyone in the office has been in a bit of a panic especially due to the current economic state of our nation and the job market. Me being a smart young woman I pretty much know what this could possibly mean, we may all be out of jobs very soon. This was confirmed when my boss told her team to update our resumes and to start looking. I have already planned my next move so I am not worried about it. However, as I stated earlier people are kind of panic stricken around the office.

But there are certain things about this particular situation that really burn my cookies. First off I am so sick of the big bosses trying to psych everyone out like we may not lose our jobs just so people will continue to work. Now granted I know this acquisition will take time and business must go on but there is a certain level of bs that I think just needs to be cut PERIOD! Like please be real with us. We know the track record of the company that bought us and we are not the first competitor they have acquired. And their track record shows that they don't keep people in the acquired companies. Granted we are their biggest acquisition I just think that people are being psyched into not having a plan b. I stopped going to the weekly meetings to update us about this matter because A) I can hear it from my desk and still work and B) They just feed us a bunch of crap. Luckily I have a boss that keeps it all the way real and tells us like it is.

As you can probably guess people are dropping like flies. Like everyday there is a company wide email sent out stating that someone is leaving the company. And at the end of every email there is a note that reads:
"Blank's departure has nothing to do with the current pending acquisition."

WHY YOU LYING?! It has everything to do with it. Five people quit this week and seven last week and you are going to tell me that none of these cases have shit to do with this acquisition?! Then yall need to to work on your retention cuz yall SUUUUCK! Liars!

I have also noticed how many people just don't give a damn anymore at work and it is quite amusing. People are loud as hell on the phone setting up interviews. People are watching youtube instead of doing their work. The smokers are taking longer and more frequent smoke breaks. People are taking 2 hour lunches, having longer personal calls, and just slacking all around. No one takes anything serious anymore and the big bosses are PISSED but they can't afford to fire anyone because they want to keep business going and too many people are leaving.

Ooooh Corporate America

Women are posessesed so Men must adjust.

A few weeks ago I was talking to my brother about an issue with Hit or Miss Guy. I was going on and on about how he had once again pissed me right on off and how I didn't want to deal with him any longer. Now I listen to my bro vent about his girlfriend ALL THE TIME! And I never say ANYTHING! Even though sometimes I disagree with what he is saying I listen to him and give him my honest opinion. But during my random rant suddenly my brother screams "UGH STOP BEING SUCH A GIRL!" I was confused. So I asked him what he meant. He attempted to explain to me that I was overreacting and the dude had a valid excuse for what I was angry about. However, I said I did not care because there is ALWAYS an excuse so I am still mad. My brother than goes on to say that he hates when I go into "girl mode." It reminds him that even though we discuss sports , his sexcapades, and the other random guy things, I am still a woman.

Men get exhausted when we vent. My brother says it is literally exhausting and taxing to listen to and afterwards he personally doesn't even want to talk anymore. It's just a fact of life. Whether it be a friend or a significant other a woman going on and on about her feelings is exhausting for a man. Now I will actively listen to a man talk about issues that are bothering him or just his random stories, particularly if I care about him. But for most guys returning this favor is an extreme chore. My brother says it goes beyond listening to a woman it is about simply accommadating her endless needs. He exclaimed, "Honestly I just think yall are possessed!" Our conversation ended up switching to issues with his girlfriend and how he has began to accommodate certain things she says and does because it keeps her happy and he is learning how to pick his battles.

The Close Confidant (CC) explained to me and my brother that later in life men learn how to shut up and let a woman have their way on certain things by picking their battles. However, many young men have yet to figure this out and it comes with maturity and security within a relationship whether it be a friendship or more. The CC than goes on a slight tangent and says, "See I like to think for myself therefore I will never be married." He tells my brother that being married for a man means that to an extent he can longer think for himself because a woman is going to insist on doing it for him. (I told my brother that if he really wants to someday be in a lasting relationship The CC may not be the best person to listen to. After all he is a 55 year old bachelor who is happy that way. LOL)

My two closest male friends went on to reinforce the fact when you are in a relationship you just have to compromise on everything because women are such emotional beings. Here are some examples that a few guy friends took pleasure in venting to me:

Example 1: My girlfriend sleeps like a toddler. She kicks, takes the covers, and hits me in the middle of the night. Now I used to go and sleep on the floor after I knew she was asleep. However, she would wake up in the middle of the night and ask why I was not in the bed with her and then would come down on the floor and sleep next to me. So now I hold her at night until she goes to sleep because she likes that shit and chances are I stay in the bed and endure her abuse. Now when I wake up in the morning I don't lie in bed. I go into the living room and watch Sports Center. Now she follows me in there and asks why I got out of bed and wants to lay RIGHT ON TOP of me! Like can I ever get any space?! It's never enough!

Example 2: My girlfriend calls me like 8 times a day and honestly I just dont have that much shit to say. I mean we talk EVERYDAY so why must we constantly be on the phone?! So I tell her let me call you back. And she's like whyyyyyyy? Like man because I am watching the game. You act like I aint gonna talk to your ass before bed and like we aint already spoke 5 times today! WTF?! So the next day I wil call her out the blue just to tell her I love her because I know she likes that shit. EXHAUSTING!

Example 3: So my girlfriend goes out of town for the weekend so I make plans with some of my friends. Now she doesn't know many of my friends because we have not been dating for that long. So she calls and I am out clearly at a bar because it is LOUD. So she asks who I am out with. And I say some friends. She's like who? So I'm like man, WHY?! You do not know them anyway so why you want me to run a bunch of names of people you don't even know. Besides can't you hear that it is loud as hell in here?! I am not trying to have a full blown convo right now! Why aren't you somewhere enjoying yourself after all you are out of town. She then slams down the phone and I am like man what is her deal?!

This all made me think, damn are we that hard to figure out and accommodate?! The dudes I spoke with about the matter sounded exhausted. Granted they were for the most part happy in their relationships, they say that there is constantly something you have to do to just shut a woman up.

I don't know. Bups male and female I am curious to hear your thoughts...

AIDS: D.C.'s Silent Stalker of Women

MMPH. CELIBACY!

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AIDS: D.C.'s Silent Stalker of Women

By Courtland Milloy
Wednesday, December 3, 2008; B01

Can we talk frankly about HIV/AIDS and black women?

No? I didn't think so.

After all, who cares to tell sassy little Keisha that if she doesn't stop mistaking sex for love, her next mistake could be her last. Of course, that wouldn't be "age appropriate," now, would it?

What about the Widow Jones? Since her husband passed, she has been dating again. Will somebody please tell her that her new dude is on the down low -- surreptitiously having sex with men -- then bringing it to bed with her?

Can't do that, either. Why meddle in her business? After all, AIDS is only the fourth-leading cause of death for black women ages 45 to 54. Let the good sister have her fun -- while it lasts.

You might have noticed that I'm focusing on women and AIDS. Speaking frankly, that's because it's up to women to save their own lives. When it comes to sexually transmitted diseases, too many men are not trying to protect you. Most of the time, they are just trying to have sex.

Quite frankly, you would have thought more women would have caught on by now.

In the District, the number of women living with AIDS increased by more than 76 percent in six years -- nine out of 10 of them black women. The primary modes of transmission: heterosexual men who turned out to be IV drug users, ex-convicts who'd been having sex with men in prison, bisexual men posing as heterosexuals and outright dogs who make a sport of sexual conquest.

Here's another reason I'm talking to women: The District accounts for 9 percent of all pediatric AIDS cases in the United States. Blame the man all you want, but it's the mother and child who suffer most.

Despite two decades of advancement in the treatment of HIV/AIDS, "we're still struggling with how to teach people not to get infected," Don Blanchon, chief executive of the Whitman-Walker Clinic in Washington, said Monday at a candlelight vigil marking the 20th anniversary of World AIDS Day.

But how can we teach if we can't talk frankly?

There's certainly no shortage of public service announcements aimed at reducing infection rates among African Americans. But most consist of preachy platitudes, politically correct and "culturally sensitive" pablum: "Stay healthy." "AIDS is preventable."

The results should not be surprising.

"People know how to espouse what they heard, but for some reason it does not stick with them," Barbara Chinn, director of Whitman Walker Clinic's Max Robinson Center in Southeast Washington, told me recently. "They still look at prospective sex partners and say, 'They don't look infected.' "

Failure to tell it like it is -- that's what's really killing us.

"When assessing the HIV risk factors associated with African Americans, one particularly difficult area of debate is that of sexual behavior," said a recent report by Avert, an international AIDS charity. "For example, could the epidemic among African Americans be because, on average, they have more sex partners than Caucasians? Or because they have different, more risky, types of sex? Such questions may seem obvious, but trying to establish answers can be hard, especially when there is a danger that they could be interpreted as racist, or used in racist propaganda."

So let's just forget about the 2005 study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that found that black teenagers were more likely to have had four or more sex partners than whites and Hispanics by the time they graduated from high school (or should have graduated), and that African American girls were more likely to have had partners who were significantly older than them. African Americans are also more likely to have concurrent partners -- that is, more than one partner at a time, which can make HIV transmission more likely to be passed on to more than one person, the study found.

If ever there was a case for unvarnished sex education in public schools, the ongoing AIDS epidemic in black America ought to be it. Instead of education, what we get more often than not is homophobic nonsense from the pulpits of our black churches.

The District has the highest rate of new reports of AIDS in the country, and the highest mortality rates to go along with it. But the horror of it all barely seeps into our collective conscience.

"While Africa is the global epicenter of HIV/AIDS infection," Chinn told me, "the District is the epicenter in this country, with infection rates in some neighborhoods east of the Anacostia River rivaling those in sub-Saharan Africa."

During a World AIDS Day interview with ABC News, President Bush called his international program to combat AIDS "one of the most important initiatives of my administration" and praised it as a success. More than 2 million people worldwide have received life-saving antiretroviral treatments since the initiative began in 2003, he said.

He made no mention of the AIDS epidemic raging in his own back yard.

Once again, mum's the word. Perhaps in the absence of frank talk, we could at least help young girls such as Keisha by getting them to serve a few weeks at an AIDS hospice. Careless sex would likely lose its sheen once they realize that their lovers could be the Grim Reaper in disguise.

A Perpsective on a Woman's Right to Choose

KIDS! This is a serious, serious decision and investment. Women are made to bear this endeavor. Just like a jail sentence nine months to life.

While, I take my precautions when it comes to KIDS,(I pop my NuvaRing, like Cindy McCain pops pills! FAITHFULLY), I do realize that things happen, people are in different situations, etc etc.

All in All, I thoroughly believe in a woman's right to choose. I believe that such a decision is not something the Gov't should decide for us. It is not their role. Many conservatives would play the, you are killing someone arguement thus it is the Gov't role to protect life. This ultimately leads me to this,

When is a fetus determined to be a child? When are you taking a life?

My response is let's not make abortion a government, state or federal duty. It is none of their business! They should not interject themselves into my crouch. If a man chooses to bust hot ones in you, so what! Is this not America?? When did we lose rights?

In fact, if we are going to give the government a right our Vaginas, the least the conservatives in government can do is be consistent !?!

So when is a child a child?

I get pregnant today. My baby is not due until June. When am I able to claim a child as deduction on my taxes? When does the child become a citizen, an actual card carrying member of society?

No one exists to the government until they have Social Security card! Ask Elian Gonzalez!
When does a child get one? When the child is born! You see my logic here. This argument is not about when one considers a baby to be person. Because that thought process differs from person to person. Hence why abortion should be a personal decision!

To me it is funny how some feel the GOVERMENT should regulate this, when the GOVERNMENT in all other realms does not recongize a person as a person until that have 9 digits?

World Aids Day

So it is December 1st. Time for me to recruit one of my friends that has never had an AIDS test to get one. Well I do this all year around actually. It is truly shocking to me how many people I know that are sexually active but have never gotten an AIDS test. Like I know women who go annually to get a pap smear and men who make sure they don't have any other STD's but have never gotten an AIDS test. The latest thing I heard from a friend is, "Man c'mon I don't have AIDS. I don't have careless sex." So I asked him well do you get checked for other things and he answers, "Of course!" So I really got the wtf face on at this point like well uhhhh that doesnt make any sense. Needless to say I am draggin his ass to get an AIDS test TODAY! I told him I'd get one too.

I know it makes everyone nervous to do this but it is apart of maintaining your health. Especially if you are sexually active. Do a good deed for World Aids Day. Take a friend to get an HIV test. And if you have never had one go get one yourself.

For you DC Bups here are some links where you can get one done today:

http://dc.about.com/od/healthandfitness/a/HIVTesting.htm

http://www.wwc.org/

http://dchealth.dc.gov/doh/cwp/view,A,1371,Q,598678.asp

Here are some other ways you can help on WAD:

http://www.worldaidscampaign.org/static/en/

http://www.actionaidusa.org/

http://www.uhupil.org/pages/Home.html

Be safe everyone!

New Season, New Buppie

Fall is here and Winter is right behind! Quite frankly, after summer my entire mood changes. There is also a transformation of activities for us Buppie's to do. We must stay on our A+ GAME!! There is no other way.

I know all of us have been adjusting to the recession woes. Bottomline, we all have to cut budget.

So what is a Buppie to do, to maintain a lifestyle in a New Season?

Well here are somethings I do or have seen:

1. Social Networking.
Networking in person is cool, but we do have the internet. In the age of Facebook, Meetup.com, and Google Chat, you don't always have to catch a drink or dinner to stay in touch.

2. Read a Book! READ A BOOK!
If you do not have a library card, go get one. Push yourself to read one book for pleasure month. The library is free. The library also has free activities! Catch a book signing, or speaker.

3. Go See a Show.
Plays, Comedy Shows, Festivals. Some have cost, some don't. It's a great alternative to just clubbing/lounging scene yet is still very social.

4. Learn a Skill.
Up&Coming Buppie is learning Spanish. She is doing Rosseta Stone. Check out your Local YMCA. Join Toastmasters to work on your professional communication.

5. Revisit your Resolutions.
With less than 60 days left in the till the new year, Revisit your Resolutions! Are you doing the things you said? If not its not too late to turn it around!

6. Join a Gym.
You got to be healthy all year round. Start small. Sign up for a weekly class.

7. Travel light.
There is nothing wrong with a small road trip. Take the inexpensive bus or train. Go visit a friend you have not seen in a while.

8. Community Service.
I goal myself to at least do a service once a month. Give up one day to help someone. Adopt a family for the upcoming holidays. School Supplies for kids..something...


What else do you do in a New Season??

Fat Happy B!tch

Thanksgiving just passed. I am sure you stuffed your face enough to feed a small African village.

I used to seriously be in love with food. (CODE FOR: I used to be more fatter than I am now.)

Last new year, I was on this serious health and weight loss kick.I did well. Invested in different foods, worked out, and learned the weight thing.. I learned a lot about FOOD and the body. It totally changed my outlook on things. But the main lesson I learned is, BASICALLY the key to lose weight in America is to realize that 99% of the food here is bad for you!

I remember the day I fell out of love with food.After a 6 months of avoiding MCDickme ahem I mean .MCDonalds. I was in the midst of busy day and needed a meal. I went and got some meal with the CRACK Juice AKA Orange HI C. Now you know that ORANGE HI-C is straight CRACK JUICE!! I wrapped my lips around the straw in excitement, only to realize my tongue slapping the shyt out of me. THE ISH WAS EFFING NASTY. I knew it was all mental too. All I kept thinking about is how I am sucking down liquid fat. Coating my throat and I would have to RUN 15 MILES just to break even.

How is it that other cultures eat CARBS AND SUGARS and LOADS of MEAT, but in AMERICA you eat that same thing, and next thing you know your on the BIGGEST LOSER???!

Take for example RICE.
Pretty much every well populated place, eats RICE and loads of it!
-India, Africa, China...

America you eat too much rice(A CARB), you will blow up like Kramer from Senfield Career!

Now you can give me that " they live a more active lifestyle" arguement. I do agree.

However, do you think they naturally do 2 hours in the gym worth of activities in their day to day???!!!

Seriously, I have come to terms with, for the rest of my LIFE, I will have to Go to the GYM 3-5 times a week, just to make up for the leaves I eat!! We cannot afford not to workout.

Beyond that I really think this food ISH is a conspiracy. I know they are putting something in our food! That slows down our metabolism or something! You eat a biscuit, you get high blood pressure. You gotta buy medicine. The medicine doesn't work unless you lose weight.
You eat food ---> You get sick --> you buy medicine --> you gotta work out...
WTF?

Plus go to the grocery store. Everything healthy is always more expensive. Salad is $5.00. 20 pack of Twinkies #3.00. They don't want us to be healthy, because we would Eff up the cycle!!!
They get kids hooked on sugar and carbs early, with all those cereals! Remember when you used to be tricked into cereal for the free toy!!!??! McDonalds, kids meal free toy. All succesful scams that have our Kids looking like this by age Five.



PLAIN OATMEAL aint never giving away a free toy.

US Economy: Are We Out the Game?

"The United States economy is like a poker game where the chips have become concentrated in fewer and fewer hands, and where the other fellows can stay in the game only by borrowing. When their credit runs out the game will stop"
-Marriner Stoddard Eccles

Are you 100%??!!

I just saw a NON White MALE President win the election , so my faith in things occurring have drastically improved. AND A couple of weekends ago, I was able to attend the Essence Young Woman's Conference in DC.I went to this conference, filled Woman from all Walks of Life, College and Beyond, FAMOUS Business minded women of COLOR.

I came to the ultimate realization, that I am very lazy and complacent in life right now. I know this because I have hunger and I am a do it type of person. However my last 2 years of life I have not been grinding.

Instead what I find myself doing is just riding the waves, and not creating the waves! I looked at these Women mentoring and sharing their knowledge, and knew I have the drive to be them and much more.

I am young and independent. I should be really moving and shaking.

I am not giving my goals the attention they deserve!!!

TIME for my BUPPIE A$$ to snap out of it!!!


Like for real, what are you doing? Are you 100% right now? I feel like I am really running on 40%. Time to take it up! And right in time for 2009!

Invading One's Privacy

Recently I was talking to a male friend of mine about his issues with his significant other. He was saying a lot of things with her were getting sketchy and he felt that she was lying to him and being sneaky. They were supposed to get together over the weekend but she said she was sick and had some other excuses as to why she didn't even bother to call him to explain her absence. So the next time she comes to the crib he waits until she goes to sleep and goes through her phone. Needless to say he finds things that he did not want to find. I told him "whooooaaa first I am blown at the fact that you went through homegirl's phone! Who does that shit?" Apparently a LOT of people do!

After talking to him about this situation I spoke with a number of ladies and gents who have invaded their significant other's personal correspondence in one way or another. Whether it be going through their phone, looking at their email or facebook, or reading their journal. Maybe I am just a punk in this regard because I don't want to know that much. I remember in college being in my boyfriend at the time's apartment. I was in his room and I saw an instant message pop up on his computer that read "hey sexy." Oh needless to say I immediately got irate and asked him about it! Therefore, I can not imagine my reaction if I went looking and found something.

Honestly I feel like if you have to snoop you already know the deal! I tend to follow my intuition in situations such as these and go straight to the source if I am suspicious. If I go to my significant other and am still not convinced clearly there is not enough trust to sustain a relationship. Yet and still here are some reasons I have gotten from people as to why they snoop:

*All of the people I asked ranged in the age of 22-30 years old.*

1) I wanted to know if he was telling the truth about where he was.

2) I knew there was someone else but I want to see if there's only one.

3) He left his email open so I looked.

4) She went to sleep and her phone was right there. If there is nothing to hide why can't I look?

5) I just needed to know!

6) I wanted to prove that I knew he was lying.

7) I had a suspicion some funny business was going on and I looked and was right!

8) He looked through my facebook so I looked through his!

Of the people I had asked only one person looked and was wrong about their suspicion. The others found something sketchy or outright found out they were being stepped out on. Which goes along with my point if you feel the need to look you already know! Unless you just super paranoid!

I'm interested to know if you are a snoop why do you do it? Do you snoop even if you have no real reason to be suspicious? If you already know the deal why snoop?

Equal Rights FOR ALL!!! Especially when it comes to LOVE.

Okay so everyone is caught up in the honeymoon stage of this election and such. I know I am. The whole thing is still surreal to me to be quite honest. But at the same time it was quite a downer to me the following day when I found out that Prop 8 was passed in California. It was one of those things I saw and thought "Huuuhhh?!" Talk about taking a HUGE step back in a forward march to equality. In the days following I noticed the posts of some of our fellow bloggers such as The Snob and My Favorite Tenant and saw their thoughts and figured it was time for me to weigh in on this topic. And in the spirit of The Tenant this post may sound more like a rant....

I can not believe that people still have the audacity to deny people rights that honestly in my opinion would not hurt ANYONE! I mean wtf?! And the irony set in when I found out that around 70% of African Americans who backed Obama also backed Prop 8. Like are yall f*ckin serious. I am having a hard time articulating my thoughts on this because to me the whole thing is so oxymoronic. I will let Jon make his joke because it kinda explains my sentiments....

Like this to me goes on the same list as abortion in politics, IT AINT NONE OF YOUR GOTDAMNED BUSINESS. It is a private matter so bud the F*CK out and find something else to vote on that is more relevant.

My mother and I were in church a few weeks ago and there was a guest pastor who decided he wanted to entertain this topic. (The guy reminded me of rev Wright because he was high yellow, militant and loud. But moving on...) So he goes on to say that homosexuality is wrong, it says so right in the Bible, and if you are a homosexual there is a nice warm place in hell for you. So the congregation gets up and starts clapping and screaming hallelujah and my mother and I were just sitting in the church, that we have been in all of our lives, in an uneasy state. I tapped her and said remind me to tell you later how I feel about this. Once she reminded me later I explained to her that I believe in the Bible, I read it everyday, and I believe in it when it comes to my matters of faith and order. HOWEVER, do I take everything in the Bible literally? NO! And I don't for a number of reasons. I believe much of it is metaphorical and also it was written THOUSANDS of years ago. Homosexuality was not as clear to people then as it is now. There have been many developments in thought that I think give a greater understanding to homosexuality.

Now do I think that every person that is gay was born that way..... NO!

Do I believe Homosexuality is wrong.... NO!

Do I believe spiritually you should be condemned to HELL if you are homosexual...... HELL NAW!

But this is the school of thought of many Blacks in particular due to the Bible. Many believe if we are to take the Bible literally we should be allowed to own slaves. Now MY Black people yall don't like that part do ya?! This goes into my school of thought on the Black Church (a blog coming to you very soon). Many Blacks enter a state of naivete when they get into their spiritual self especially in church. They will accept anything a preacher throws at them without using their own "spiritual common sense" if you will. And as a result become extremely judgemental. I was raised in a Baptist church. However, I was also raised to have a mind of my own.

I know too many good hearted, open minded, gays and lesbians to believe that they are hell bound because they are attracted to the same sex. I also personally know a couple that desires to get married but can't because the government won't allow it. Personally I just don't feel that is right!

What are some thoughts on this topic? Would you vote for or against Prop 8 where you live?

Proud to Be An American

So I didn't want to write this post until I spoke with my 89 year old grandfather to get his take on the outcome of this election. We have been talking alot more than usual due to the historical significance of this election season. But to hear what an 89 year old man from Augusta Georgia had to say about it made the experience complete for me. An 89 year old man that couldn't save his friend from being lynched when he was 15 years old so he watched helplessly. An 89 year old man that served his country in the US Navy and came home to be kicked off of the property of a diner, that he was not even attempting to eat in, while he was in uniform. To hear the pride in my grandfather's voice of what had taken place made me understand with more clarity what my generation had been a force in helping to do. We hear all the time of how many people endured so that we could enjoy this moment, however, to hear the pride and joy in my own grandfather's voice was the highlight for me! I asked him well how do you feel about it and he answered, "Well, I feel fine." His voice sounded calm and assured.

Because he has seen so much in the history of this country I felt what he thought today as well as the thoughts of many others who had lived to see the evolution of this country was much more insightful than my thoughts. One thing that my grandfather pointed out very strongly was that he was proud of America period. He kept reiterating the fact that people of ALL colors helped to make this possible because they were ready for change and they did not care WHAT COLOR it was. He exclaimed, "This aint no Black thing! This is about change and people's hunger to see it!" He also said that I should be proud of my generation and our technological mobility because without that Barack Obama would not have raised his record breaking amount of money. Also he would not have had the ability to get his grassroots efforts running so smoothly and successfully.

"His campaign was rooted in the internet. And you see that made all the difference. He created a message of change, and a following of many people, particularly young people, who believed in that change. And then he used that powerful tool to bring it all together, The Internet! He's a smart man and the brilliance in his campaign is going to transfer over to his presidency! You just wait n see!" my grandfather said very calmly but with much confidence.

The pride in my grandfather's voice beamed through the phone as he said, "I'm just glad I was around to see it. I knew it was going to happen I am just glad my body and my mind held out to witness it. Because GOD chose Obama to take America to this next step in history. He gave him the ability to make this happen. I didn't know who would be able to do it but it became clear to me early on that Obama was that man. And he did it!"

This election season has made me realize how little I have seen in my mere 24 years. However, I am proud as my grandfather said, to be apart of the generation who helped make the final push for this particular outcome. Many came before us to serve as catalysts and give us the opportunity and the ability to make this happen. Then the youth vote SHOWED OUT yesterday and held up their end of the deal and I am so PROUD! I saw so many young people of so many races yesterday who stood proud after voting and were so excited about doing their civic duty. Something just as touching to me was talking to a 56 year old woman at the polls who was so excited because for the first time she really felt like her vote may count for something REAL! Her 62 year old sister was with her voting for the very first time. She said this is the first time she really believed in a candidate enough to cast a vote.

My grandfather has shared so many experiences of the feats he has seen in not only race relations in this country, but the progress of humanity in general. I am looking forward to telling my kids and grandkids of what my generation helped to do on November 4, 2008. We helped to usher in the first African American President. A man named Barack Obama!

Countdown To Vote

Today is Monday. Tomorrow is the beginning of what seems the rest of my Buppie Life.

The way my stomach is turning every time I think of the results, you would have thought I was a 7 year old who just realized they have to bring home a report card with a D on it!

Whatever the results I really have to thank this election for getting some many people involved. Including me!

Honestly, I will always remember at least 2 elections. This current one, and of course the day George W Bush got elected. I just knew he would bring back slavery.

What ever the case is tomorrow. Let's GET IT Buppies!

The Equal Opportunity Dater

So I have been thinking a lot lately about of my dating experiences since moving to DC. I have had a few really good and really bad dates. I truly enjoy meeting new people. But I have noticed quite a few white and Latino men hit on me when I am out. I always kind of played it to the side like ehhh I'm not interested because he is not black. This made me really sit back and think about why I have these thoughts. This is something that I think about regularly because one of my best friends is in a relationship with white guy and I am getting ready to attend the wedding of one of my childhood friends who is marrying a white guy. So this got me to thinking maybe I should really practice what I preach about being an equal opportunity dater.

One thing that amuses me about this topic is that many black men do not like the thought of a black woman with a white man. (Not all black men have a problem with this. I am just saying a lot I talk to do.) And there are many different reasons. One reason given by a guy I know is that when he sees a white man and a black woman he immediately thinks "massah and his whench." I was like whaaaat?! But then he explained it just reminded him of how it seems it would have been in slave times. Then, he went on to say, "You ever notice in most instances when you see a white man with a black woman, the woman has natural hair? Like unpermed or dreads? Like they want an authentic African looking woman." I thought that was a bit extreme then for the next few weeks I noticed that every time I saw this type of interracial couple the woman had natural hair. Weird!

My main reservation is I feel like many white men, particularly the ones who hit on me, look at me as an experiment. Like they see black women as these ultra sexual beings that they can have fun with! My bestfriend says that white men are attracted to me because of my small frame and that goes further into my point. I don't want to be no white man's freaky black toy. WTF?! I remember freshman year of college I went on a date with a white guy and the whole time he was just making sly sexual comments and I was super uncomfortable. Needless to say I never went out with him again and when I saw him on campus I darted the other way. But many of my male friends have told me that the white men that do hit on me do think like this. (I hope my friends are being honest with me and are not simply hating.)

I just simply think that I am possibly missing out on a lot of decent men if I do not date outside my race. Like I am limiting my options and that's not cool is it? Another problem I have is I am honestly not attracted to very many white men. It is very rare I break my neck to look at a white guy. Here are a few tho that I always look twice at:

Good Ol' Brad Pitt. This man is sexy

David Beckham! Go Victoria cuz this man aint bad! I'd break my neck on this one.

This man makes me CRAZY!!!! I LOVE James Franco. I'd throw my panties at him.

Heeeyy Marky Mark! He's a cutie.

Paaauuuuul Walker! Yes sir! SMFH!

If a white man of the caliber of any of these men stopped me on the street I may be off the market quickly. Wrap me UP! So the next white guy who stops me coming out of Target or I see while bar hopping in Adams Morgan I am going to challenge myself to open my mind and entertain it. Who knows where it may lead?

Who is really Anti American??

I try my hardest to not discriminate. It is not right.

I hope people do not look at VHI Flavor of Love, or BET, or OJ Simpson and think they represent all Black Folks.

With that being said, I refuse to believe that all White people from or near OHIO are like this.




BTW, isn't it funny how the ONE DROP rule is proving still true in 2008?

Funny how Barack Obama, is half white. Raised by Whites. Just like some of these White people in the video, yet he is still a 100 NEGRA in their eyes...

If this is the America we live in, in 2008? For real, I am anti American. This ish is just plain old WACK!!!

November 4. VOTE.

The Real Housewives of Atlanta

Soooo several people made remarks about this show, The Real Housewives of Atlanta, so I finally took it upon myself to watch it and all I can say is WOW! Like are these bitches fa real??? For those of you who are not aware of the television program I am speaking of it comes on Bravo Tuesdays at 10pm. The show follows several high profile wives of athletes, businessmen, and celebrities living in Atlanta.



Okay so I want to be a successful buppie but I DO NOT want to be like most of these women!!! YIKES! Materialistc, self-absorbed, control freaks spending they man's money! This is with the exception of Mrs. Lisa Wu Hartwell, the Blasian. She the only one who actually appears to be working for hers with her husband. I can't knock her hustle for using some of the resources of her hubby Edgerton Hartwell and her ex hubby Keith Sweat in her own ventures. My only problem with her is that I haven't seen the kids from her previous marriage on the show but hey maybe there is some private reason for that. I digress..

Let me not fake though....I FLIPPIN LOVE THIS SHOW!!! It is sheer entertainment. The catfights about not being on a guest list to a bitches party you don't even like, the shopping and clothes, the token white chick being laced by a mystery man that chooses to remain a secret (probably because he's married) UUUUHHH GIMME MORE!! I LOVE THE DRAMA!!!

However, in actuality all of these things seem so surface! Like if any of the husband's of any of these women decide they no longer want to be with them, they broke! This is with the exception of a) Ms. Hartwell who I think would be fine because she has work ethic AND b) the bitches smart enough not to sign a prenup. Granted they'd still have money but not what they have now. But let's look at Ms. Sheree Whitifield who I believe is the brokest out of all of them. She's in the middle of a divorce from Bob Whitfield and is determined to get a 7 figure divorce settlement to sustain the exact same lifestyle as she had when she was married. I know Bob is thinkin, "Damn I regret the day I met this bitch!"

Granted, the Black Atlanta elite lifestyle looks wonderful!!! I mean black people doing big things is a beautiful to me. Maybe that is part of the reason why I love this show so much. However, I think this can also be viewed as a negative depiction of the Black women's ideals as well as a negative depiction of the shallow values of successful Blacks.

My Night in Jail Part 2

SEE Part 1

Approximately, three hours into us waiting, Husband Homeboy's shows up. With a Chick.

Wifey of course is pissed. Homeboy pissed. They go at it.

Wifey: "Where you been? all this time??"
Homeboy: The Police told me to come back at this time.
Wifey: Where is his car?
Homeboy : Parked.
Chick:Parked.

PAUSE: CHICK should MYOB. She caught a mean attitude like the situation had anything to do with her.

PLAY. Husband Homeboy bickers a bit. Stops talking to Wife, goes to the counter to bails husband out. The Clerk processes the $75 BAIL.

PAUSE. EXCUSE ME CLERK. WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR 3 Hours trying to bail Husband out!!

Wifey proceeds to become incredible hulk mad and yells from the top of her lungs: " EXCUSE ME. I AM HIS WIFE !!! YOU NOT ABOUT TO ACT LIKE I HAVE NOT BEEN WAITING HERE FOR MY HUSBAND AND IGNORE ME" really she was referring to Husband Homeboy

PAUSE: woah woah woah now! Where did that come from?

PLAY. Police officers in station.
"WAIT a Minute now! You not fitten to act all crazy in here. We will arrest you for Disturbing the Peace. Calm that ish down"

PAUSE. Now, What am I doing? Laughing MY A$$ OFF!

Anyway, things of course calm down. Even after the Police threats. Wifey is not calm. She is highly pissed. She is pissed at the fact Husband Homeboy acting like he saved the dang on day, and she sat here and waited.

CLERK: Says to Wifey, Husband Homeboy got Husband stuff, that Husband Gave to him, so Husband Homeboy has a right to continue to hold it.

Pause: OK Whatever.

CLERK then says: He will be right out after we run his Prints.

PAUSE:Run his prints?? WTF. The same prints process that I saw took 2 days! We have been waiting hours!! I am READY to GO.

PLAY. So Husband Homeboy and Chick proceed to go wait in the other side of waiting area. Entire time Husband Homeboy and Wifey are quietly poppin off at each other.

The amusement of Jail rubs off me quickly. We had been waiting too damn long, just to be waiting longer for some damn prints. I asked wifey, take me home.

Wifey is like she doesn't feel comfortable leaving Husband Keys and Stuff with Husband homeboy. Ok gotcha. I understand.

An hour passes.

Now I am getting pissy, because Husband Homeboy should go ask for an update from the CLERK. I mean there was only like 2 people in jail that night.



Wifey is still lamenting in her pissedness. She walks up to CLERK to ask,
"As his wife do I not have a right to my husband's stuff? I do not feel that Husband Homeboy should have my husbands keys and wallet. I mean I am on the car insurance, not Husband Homeboy."

CLERK: "There is really nothing we can do. Your husband gave him the keys. I can go back and ask him what he wants to do"

Pause: And Gay people want to get married because?? You really dont get a right to much in marriage these days. Pause Again: GO back clerk and speed up this damn process while you at it.

So in the meanwhile, Wifey comes upon Genius revelation that works in her favor. She drove her car. Husband drove his car, but proceeded to get arrested. Husband gets out, he will not be able to drive his car, because he lacks license. Husband Homeboy a$ed out, unless Wifey does drive, since Wifey on insurance.

CLERK Returns, She said the Husband said :"Go ahead and go home wifey. I will take friends home."

Pause: HOLD DA EFF UP. NAW WE AINT JUST WAIT HERE 4 HOURS, CAUSE U CALLED AND BEG YOUR WIFE FOR NOTHING. GO THE HAYLE HOME?? OOO HAYLE NAW.

Wifey: Well he cannot drive them home because of his license. And I do not have his keys, so I guess we gotta get the SHYt TOWED.

Wifey proceeds to give Husband Homeboy evil look. Pulls out triple AAA card.

Pause: It is looking like Husband Homeboy better just give up the keys.

So Wifey proceeds to act like she going to get the car towed. We continue to wait.

Husband Homeboy and Chick walks up to CLerk.

Husband Homeboy: "I would like to check his things in"

Officer in the back: "Wait aint his wife right there?"

Clerk: "I guess he doesn't want her to have it"

Pause: Woow. These people are trippen. Are you really going to check his ish?

Husband Homeboy, checks in Husband stuff. Then proceeds to bounce. Apparently someone comes and picks him up.

Wifey: "I told Husband his friend is crudy."

Pause: Friend is crudy. Could wait on his homeboy to get out? Then call a ride?

Finally, Husband gets out of Jail. Of course Wifey is pissy. This drama was too much. I was not even all that mad because I could finally get home. The Drama was over, right?

WRONG!!!



Husband and Wifey had both cars there. Husband has a tricked out car, Impala, tints, RIMS.

Wifey told her BFF to drive his car.

Husband had a hissy fit!

Husband : "Naw eff dat, you drive my car WIFEY!! I rather get the shyt towed then have BFF drive"

He is jumping up and down in the middle of a street in DC at 3AM mind you!! Hissy fit over his lackluster a$$ impala. (BUPPIE DON'T BTW)

Wifey: "Husband, are you saying your car is more important than mind??!!!"

They go back and forth for 5 more minutes before Wifey Angrily Screams in the night "FINE!!!".

AGAIn this is 3:05 AM around the corner from the Popos!

She Drives his car. BFF drives hers.

Finally I am home.

End of Story...

Message: Avoid Jail period. Both in person and in MARRIAGE.

Things Fall Apart

Having one of those, Non-BF and GFs, but are dating exclusively relationship, still has an ending similar to a relationship break up.

After a few months in "Booship", the relationship dwindled and we went our separate ways.
When things were good between us, it was excellent. He seemed capable. Ambitious, Open, upwardly mobile. We both had a similar sense of humor. We became attached. It was quick, but occurred just naturally.

As the woman in the relationship, felt I had grown so much. All the childish relationship things that occurred in the past, were not going to happen here. I was a woman for him. I enjoyed spoiling him. I enjoyed giving. Cooking for him. Spending time with him. Supporting him in all his endeavors. I had grown so much with him. I thank him for allowing me that opportunity.

And he a GREAT Man. Treated me CORRECT. He never disrespected me ever! He took me out, he spent endless time with me. He cooked for me, and even taught me a few things in the kitchen. We had similar interests, but he took the time to teach me more about his interests.

We enjoyed each other a lot. Things were great. I was happy and he too.

Of course as a woman, I questioned our booship constantly in my head. Why? I was enjoying him very much, and I wanted to make sure we were working towards a relationship. Even though, quite frankly I was putting in relationship type effort.

We had some discussions , and he told be point blank I was not wasting my time. Cool. Nice to know. Things continued.
Then one day we were chatting about commitment. Now, I will say I have my tiffs with commitment. He did too. He was reluctant. It was not something he really was interested in.

I agreed. Went back is reexamined my position. Should I be acting like a girlfriend, and putting boyfriend like expectations on him, If in fact that is not what we agreed to do?

The reality is, WE WERE not BOYFRIEND and GIRLFRIEND. We were not. we were not. So no, I was wrong for doing that to him. To making him feel that he had too act a certain way. I was wrong for expecting him to do Boyfriend like things! I realized I was playing wifey, to someone who was not interested in a wife.

So I began to Operation Fall Back. I reduced the pressure he had to spend with me all around. He had to handle a lot of other life issues, and I did not want add to it. At the same time, it became kind of weird, forced even. Our relationship drastically changed. We stopped communicating more and more. I filled my time trying to stay busy to avoid really noticing what was going on.

Anyway, we have the conversation, which I knew was coming. Throughout the past week, I was racking my brain, cus i honestly missed how things were. However, I did not know if I really wanted to fight for it if he was not interested. As I reflect, I feel I saw his lack of interest develop about the same time I decided to fall back. He would no longer commit to partner based events. Perhaps his way of setting me straight on my role.

He explained to me he saw things change. I explained to him, that I felt I needed to fall back, because of the direction we were heading in. He explained to me, that he also felt the need to fall back because he had so much going on in his life. True. Maybe he became bored. We did reach that 3 month mark!

The relationship dwindled to a point of no return. He was dealing with alot in his life. Trying to figure out his next career move. He felt unsettled, and because of that he felt he could not dedicate time to the booship. There you have it. Its over.

While it is true he needed the time, in these situations, where you cannot follow-up question, you begin to have doubts about the true reason.

Yes he was busy. BUT maybe He was also bored? Maybe there was another interesting woman...

The point is , I will never know. So why even let my mind wonder to what ifs? So I suck it up. Appreciate the Good times, and Keep it moving...right?

5 Rules to Tipping

RULE NO. 1: Unless the server is rude, condescending, and/or completely absent, tip between 18 and 20 percent.

RULE NO. 2: Never tip on tax. Tip based on the subtotal. And if you're calculating your tip simply by doubling the tax, stop it--you're being cheap.

RULE NO. 3: Unless you drink like Dean Martin or have a taste for expensive wines (i.e., $40 or more, depending on your budget), it's best to include booze when calculating a tip. Bartenders expect a dollar tip per drink (which is usually about 20 percent of the drink's price), and it's no different with waiters.

RULE NO. 4: Never turn a blind eye when others are tipping--especially if they're unfamiliar with our tipping culture (i.e., Europeans). If you think your tablemate is lowballing the service, it's best to hand the waiter a few bills on the way out.

RULE NO. 5: If a few dollars here and there really matter that much to your bank account, perhaps you shouldn't be going out to eat in the first place.

Frugal Buppie

"It can be cheap but it can't look cheap. Don't do trends just do you."
-Anonymous

EFF JOE the PLUMBER, WHAT ABOUT JOANNA THE BUPPIE??

OK Third Debate. We are closer to naming someone our President of America!

There is all this damn talk about Joe the damn Plumber, Joe Six Pack! EWW.

You forgot all about Joanna the Buppie or Johnathan the Buppie?


All over the US, us buppies are upset with this government.

Education:
In the words of Ms. Buppie Buppie, "I HAVE BEEN PAYING SALLIE MAE THEIR MONEY FOR 2 YEARS AND MY LOAN STILL 20 G'S!" Education is too damn expensive. Our kids school sucks. American schools are not good enough. Charter schools are cool. But damn I do not always qualify?

Buppie on Abortion:
MYOB

McCain:
SMDH. Can someone name anything he did for black people?

Business being Fined for lack of healthcare:
If you do business, and you cannot afford to provide healthcare for your employees, you deserved to get fined! Main reason ppl need healthcare cus they are working me to damn hard!

Big Business:
EFF your tax break If I had more money, Big business would get theirs...

Healthcare Credit from John McCain:
5000 for the whole yr??? Whylin! .

Employment:
We need to create jobs. We do need to reexamine everything, and cut strategically.

Taxes:
I cut your ass if you raise my damn taxes!


All buppies differ in what they think, just as plumbers. However neither candidate has addressed us? What would you tell them, they are whylin on? Or a point they missed? Or what you are really feeling?

HOLLAR-WEEN

Dear Buppie,

Okay so I have been invited to a wonderful event which will be filled with lots of buppie people to network and hang out with to celebrate Halloween at the end of the month.
I just realized, however that...after looking around site after site, there are no BLACK COSTUMES?!!!
WTF... NO I DONT WANT TO GO AS OBAMA!

Do I have any other type of choices? Whats up with that... We dont have any "superheroes," or anyone that we can step foot in and "be" for one day?

Gimme a break....
Angry in October

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The Districts POV:

I totally feel you. I just racked my brain this entire weekend thinking of what if we are in this predicament, what about Asians and Latinos? They are just as EFFed as we black folks are, If not worse off!! Angry in October, this was such a good question!

Why does is seem that all the costumes seem to be driven for Caucasians? Is this their holiday?

The reality is. It is. LOL. However, it does not mean we cannot join in and enjoy it! I am glad your buppie friends went out on a limb, and conducted such a buppie event! I love it!

The reason I think people really enjoy this Holiday is because they really can be anything they want to be for a day. You and I, need to think like that when we are going for these costumes. So what Superman is white!

That night you are going to be the flyest Superman. That is the aim of the Day.

Now, Now! When you walk through that costume store, you are going to want to be safe and typcial. The typical black costume for me, is anything that one can hook up with the outrageous Afro. 70s. Black Exploitation films. Pimps. Ain't that a shame? DO NOT TAKE this easy way out!

So, I advise you to go balls to the wall. If it does not look like typical out of character of black costume, You do it! I mean really do it! Make people believe that is you! That is the point of Halloween! Go Big!

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Up&Coming's POV:

I am the wrong bup to ask about this one because I do not celebrate Halloween. When I was younger I did and I was a witch, pirate, cheerleader etc. Me and my best friend go back and forth about this all the time. My bestfriend LOVES Halloween because it is the time where she can be creative and provocative at the same time. I am honestly not amused with it and just think about my mother picking through the candy she didn't want me to eat as a kid.

With that said here are still some thoughts. Be whatever the heck you wanna be and transform that to fit you. A friend of mine was the prettiest BLACK Marilyn Monroe one year. I was like wow and everyone else was like "Marilyn who?" because she made it her own. One year my mother dressed as a flapper and I thought that was cool! However, I think you may be a guy so that may not work for you. LOL A friend of mine went one year in a nice suit as GOD's gift to women wearing a label that read: To Women From GOD. Thought that was interesting.

Maybe part of the reason I do not celebrate Halloween is because I have some of the same sentiments about it that you do now that I think about it. But I agree with The District's Bup when she says it is the day where you can transform whatever you want to suit you! So I suggest you just decide what you want to be, put your own spin on it and do it up!

Here are some suggestions from my BFF who I referenced earlier ( I asked her for ideas cuz I don't have a clue on this one):

- Cop

- Love Doctor

- Cowboy

- Adam (if you have a date she can be Eve)

Hit Or Miss Relationships (This was a Miss)

So a guy who I have been dating off and on over 3 years hit me up today and made me realize how much the relationship was really in need of closure. It is so crazy how you can have chemistry with a person and that particular person is still not for you. We have a lot of love for one another, shared a great deal of good times, had a number of screaming matches and fall outs but at the end of the day he comes back to patch things up with me. However, our last fallout struck a different cord. The bell finally went off in my head and I seriously asked myself, "Self, why are you doing this? This is never going to be what you want it to be!"

So this just made me wonder what is it with these hit or miss relationships. (Well more so miss relationships cuz this one was defintely a miss.) Why is it that some people have such staying power in your life yet and still when it comes down to a serious relationship with the person it never works. We laugh together, vent to one another, enjoy one another's company but there are just personality flaws on both sides that neither of us can get past. So you would think we would let it go but nooooo that is not how it works. We continue to be gluttons for punishment, he gets pissed at me or I get pissed at him and we fall out. Only to go on another 2-6 month hiatus of not speaking until one day he calls my phone and I answer.

All this being said why is it so hard to just let it be. I'm not in love with the dude although I do care for him very deeply. We have had a 3 year homie, lover, friend relationship. I am always the one to break it off however, he always comes back and I always let him in! Deep down I think more than anything I am afraid of losing a friend. However, I know that our relationship will never be simply a friendship therefore I need to let it go and just not answer that call or text next time he attempts to re-enter my life.

The life and times of this bup (sigh).....

Hey, things could be a LOT worse!

Inconsiderate B!tches

Inconsiderate B!tches are giving us GOOD Women bad raps.
I consider an Inconsiderate B!itch just what its says. A female DOG who does not take into consideration other peoples feelings. She pisses everywhere. She is not trained. She runs wild.

Let me mention, It is OK to be selfish when it just effects you or the other person is cool with it, however when they are not AND you know they are not and you still pursue the situation for your sole benefit, that just WRONG.

Case in Point: Do you know someone who really plays with peoples emotions just because? Dude likes girl. Girl really not feeling him, but continues to flirt with him. Asks dude to visit her, knowing good and well she not feeling him. He gets there. She doesn't like him so she plays him when he gets there.

Now on some realness, no GROWN MAN or GROWN woman suppose to be traveling to see someone, when its clearly not platonic, and not expect to beat. That is just the way the cookie crumbles. So what I am saying is this; if a man is traveling to come see you because you asked for it, Or coming over after midnight because you asked, please consider his feelings. After all he is a Man. A man is going to feel like SMASHING. Please CONSIDER this before you extend an invite. Most women do. I.E The BOOTY CALL HOURS RULE.

But then there does exist the inconsiderate bitch who will proceed just because she is amused from it. Act like he is wrong for getting a hard on!

Another point case, just for better understanding is when women MEALS on WHEELS. I know I am going to catch flack, but I think it is inconsiderate for woman just to go out with dudes for a meal. Please please, stop wasting a dudes time doing this! He is not paying for nothing!! He wants something in return, and I urge you to be considerate. He will be the main dude playing bugaboo. If you not feeling him, go half on the meal. OR at least, try to find another reason other than food to go out with him! (Networking, something)

I urge us women to be more understanding of Men's wants. Let's not take advantage of people for shyts and giggles.

My Night At JAIL! Part 1

Last Saturday, I spent my night at the 3rd District Jail in DC .What was supposed to be a pleasant evening celebrating my Libra friends, and dancing with HAWT Personal Trainer Guys, was a evening of DRAMA and Comedy (Very Similar to a Tyler Perry Movie!)

Break Down of the Atmosphere

Walking into jail, I had thee biggest smirk on my face. It was weird. I knew I did not belong, at the same time it made me chuckle, because of the reason for the arrival. First of all, the dang station was right in the midst of a quiet neighborhood. Right across the street, were homes. How much of a blower is that? Knowing you live right across the street from the PoPos?
The station reminded me of YMCA/School. We walked in, and saw bulletin boards. Trophies. Domestic Violence Literature.

The Officer on Duty, who was working as clerk was husky black female with lots of tude. Similar to MADEA.

At first I was excited. I wanted a tour of joint. I sat my ass in the chairs and looked around took everything in. The place was not modernized, and I wonder why the DC Gov't missed this in its budgets.

Soon after we walked in, an older married couple walked in solemnly behind us. Being that the clerk was loud, I could hear all their business. It seems their SON, a college student, got wrapped up for a DUI. TSK TSK. At this point in his processing, they need to run his prints. Apparently this process was going to take a bit of time, so the parents opted to go home to bed and call back to check in. The Clerk warned them, that if his prints did not come back clean, he would have a Monday Court date. Also the clerk told them do not be surprised if something were to come back, because people hide shyt all the time.. SHAME

Any who after we cracked the initial jokes and took some photos ops, we waited and waited, and waited some more.

We spoke to other people who arrived later in the night. One was a dude who was very familiar with jail and the processes, from experience. He spoke about how this station in particular sucked because things were so slow.
Somethings he said:
"Usually when you wait for something you have a TV, Look they do not even have one."

"One time when I came here, tried to get my friend processed out. The told be their fingerprint machine broke."

One thing,I learned is cops don't give an EFF about Customer Service!!

The DRAMA Beyond the BARS:

So why was I at Jail?? The reason why I went to jail is because a friend, her husband caught a charge. Driving without a valid license. Apparently, he goes to jail often. He is Jail-prone. Now, Husband was with his homeboy on the way to Adams Morgan. Did not stop at stop sign. Husband Homeboy, disappears but has all of Husbands stuff. You know: Cellie, Money, keys to vehicle. Watches Husband get arrested.

Now Husband Homeboy has Husband Car and Cell. Husband in jail, cannot seem to get a hold of Husband Homeboy. He Calls Wife. Wife calls Husband cell phone, which Husband Homeboy is supposed to have. Right. Husband Homeboy does not pick up. MMM

PAUSE. Let me say throughout this situation, I practiced MYOB. I minded my business. However, I did draw my conclusions about a couple of things.

Conclusion 1: Husband Homeboy, Why did he not call Wifey to let her know Husband is locked up?

PLAY. So Husband, eventually begs Wife to come bail him out. Wifey pissed Husband Homeboy abandoned Husband. Apparently Husband Homeboy, has a history of leaving Husband A$$ed out. Wifey dislike Husband Homeboy because of history. There is beef.

WE waited for freakin hours. Wifey of course identifies her self with the Clerk. Clerk says something of the officer processing husband, had some other paperwork to do prior to processing husband. We waited more.

Approximately, three hours into us waiting, Husband Homeboy's shows up. With a Chick.

Wifey of course is pissed. Homeboy pissed. They go at it.

Wifey: "Where you been? all this time??"
Homeboy: The Police told me to come back at this time.
Wifey: Where is his car?
Homeboy : Parked.
Chick:Parked.

PAUSE: CHICK should MYOB. She caught a mean attitude like the situation had anything to do with her.

PLAY. Husband Homeboy bickers a bit. Stops talking to Wife, goes to the counter to bails husband out. The Clerk processes the $75 BAIL.

PAUSE. EXCUSE CLERK. WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR 3 Hours trying to bail Husband out!!

TO BE CONTINUED....

This is a pretty long story...So I will Continue.. super long blogs suck!